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Resurrection

“Here is a truth you often don’t hear: traumatized women have the potential to become the most powerful people in this world.


The most ignorant members of society call this type of woman “damaged.” But she is the most powerful type of woman there is


What they forget is that survivors have the most dangerous advantage of all: resilience.

When you try and you try but you can never bring a woman down, you’ll know there is no going back. Don’t fool yourself. You could never defeat her. You never will.

This is the woman who will always rise from the dead; Lady Lazarus, after going through hell and back.

This is the woman who has burned her feet in the flames time and time again and always lives to tell another tale – even if she has to crawl back to life.

She was never given love or approval on a silver platter, so in order to survive, she had to love herself in a way others could only dream of. She fought tooth and nail for her own self-acceptance.

No one coddled her as a child or told her pretty things; she had to fend for herself each step of the way. She knows she can survive because she already has and will again.

When someone tells her, “You can’t do it,” she says, “Watch me.”

She is fiery light birthed out of wintery darkness. Brought into the underworld by Hades, Persephone brings forth spring and rebirth when she reemerges finally from the cold.

She owns her shadows and seamlessly weaves them into the fabric of her freedom, creativity, imagination and independence.

All of her life, she was given every evidence of human cruelty and the evil people were capable of. She understood early on that the monsters people dreamed of existed in human skin.

She lived all of her nightmares in high definition. She was given every reason to give up, handed every justification to never believe in herself or anyone.

But there is raw magic in the ways in which she cultivates a faith in herself, to manifest the dreams that her soul was meant to bring forth. Despite it all, she still conquers.

She still survives and thrives.

The “damaged” woman is capable of immense manifestation not just in spite of, but because of the traumas she has gone through.

There is no one more motivated than a woman who has constantly been told what she cannot do or who she cannot be throughout her lifetime.

There is no one more determined to succeed than someone who has nothing left to lose.

The so-called “damaged” woman doesn’t sign up for the hardships of her journey – but she plays the hell out of the cards she’s been dealt.

The “damaged” woman is not damaged at all – she is wounded, and in channeling and healing her wounds, she becomes the source of incredible energy, the site of unbelievable potential for abundance and change.

She possesses the power to use her wounds for the greater good and her highest good.

She builds her own success and becomes her own rugged hero; tends to her own scraped knees.


She uses every stone thrown at her to build the foundation for her empire.

Brick by brick she builds – and despite every attempt to tear her walls down, she rescues herself again and again.

Despite it all, this type of survivor may still face hatred, envy, greed from those around her. They try to tell her she is too damaged to soar.

See, when the women society call too “damaged” perform better than those who never were, it tends to upset the status quo.

As a result, she becomes the survivor of countless witch hunts, the target of many persecutors. Yet when they try to burn her at the stake, she does what comes naturally: she resurrects herself.

After all, nobody suspects that it is the wounded woman who has more power inside of her than the bullies who appear to overpower her.

They laugh and ridicule the mute warrior, the one who seems to never fight back.

But here’s the thing about this type of woman: she observes.


She learns how to pick and fight her own battles. Her spirit may be broken, but it is relentless. She perseveres, bit by bit. She takes it all in.

Perhaps she stays voiceless for years. For her soul, it may seem like for centuries. This is an ancient wound, one that seems to follow her from generation to generation.

Yet at some point, it comes time for her soul to fight back in order to survive. It comes time for her to rise.

She stays silent for so long that when she finally speaks, the world erupts and cracks wide open.

Her pent-up magnificent energy, born and bred in the pressure cooker that she calls life – is that of lightning.

Where once hopelessness was her default, now abundance becomes her birthright.

Where once she was timid, she now unleashes thunder in every action and word that she wields like a sword – and with it, she always brings a storm.

Now when she creates, she creates new worlds and transforms and manifests on a level that cannot be recreated by someone who never had to struggle to survive.


When you hear the voice of a powerful survivor and the will of a warrior – there is nothing you can do but to stop and listen.

She is the voice of a million lifetimes lived.

She is the voice of the hopeless and the powerless when the fire is brought back to their eyes. She is the harbinger of the justice that the voiceless have longed to hear and feel and touch.

Regardless of how much you try and how it may seem, you can never truly bring a survivor like this to her knees; she already knows the value her scars bring.

She knows how to fill the cracks between her wounds with gold.


She knows how to transform each bitter word cast upon her into an iron-clad will that will set her and other caged birds free.

You can’t ever defeat a “damaged” woman, because she knows exactly how to save herself”

~ Shahida Arabi

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this is too much focus on female genitalia for me. as if a man who gots beaten by life cant get resilient as well.
thats what happens to normal people.. you struggle, you adapt, you survive. its human trait... actually trait for every life form on the planet.
how the author somehow wants to claim this as female specific is beyond me.

also i dont agree with the "damaged" part... when i read damaged i understand it in a psychological destroyed way.. like the opposite of adaption. a person who is not able to adapt to struggles of life or got broken by life beyond the point of adaptation.

and becoming "powerful" in a sense of political and societal power its actual a very bad example, because in politics as history proofed multiple times, its more like the narcissistic lier type of person accumulates the most power.
power and control is something lunatics are obsessed with.

recently there was a good movie about this topic, i think it was called the experiment.. which is based on the stanford prison experiment which really existed.
they put a random group of people into two groups, one prisoner the other the guards. physical violence wasnt allowed but guards had to assert some rules. people will get payed if they finalise the experiement for 14 days.
after like 6 days they had to stop because it escalated to much.
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0997152/
 
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this is too much focus on female genitalia for me. as if a man who gots beaten by life cant get resilient as well.
thats what happens to normal people.. you struggle, you adapt, you survive. its human trait... actually trait for every life form on the planet.
how the author somehow wants to claim this as female specific is beyond me.

also i dont agree with the "damaged" part... when i read damaged i understand it in a psychological destroyed way.. like the opposite of adaption. a person who is not able to adapt to struggles of life or got broken by life beyond the point of adaptation.

and becoming "powerful" in a sense of political and societal power its actual a very bad example, because in politics as history proofed multiple times, its more like the narcissistic lier type of person accumulates the most power.
power and control is something lunatics are obsessed with.

recently there was a good movie about this topic, i think it was called the experiment.. which is based on the stanford prison experiment which really existed.
they put a random group of people into two groups, one prisoner the other the guards. physical violence wasnt allowed but guards had to assert some rules. people will get payed if they finalise the experiement for 14 days.
after like 6 days they had to stop because it escalated to much.
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0997152/


I’m sorry this poem triggered you.
I’m not excluding the fact that men have pain and suffer too.

There are many amazing poems on men’s empowerment as well….. I just happen to be a woman. And I was massively triggered by a male chauvinist doctor this week. A old reel for me i did not want to see again.

I’ve been through some things in my life. Sounds like you have too. And I think anything that helps those that have been put down and defeated so much, to feel Empowered, is a good thing. It’s difficult to assess why I would share this, when you haven’t walked in my shoes and I have not yours.

It’s ok if you don’t. I respect that. That’s the nice thing about blogs, they are like your own personal journal. I hope this entry invites you to find why it was triggering to you and may it be a cathartic exploration for yourself. The light (exploration, growth) gets in where the crack (trauma) forms.

Much love and healing ❤️‍🩹 to you on your day and journey. You are heard. I am sorry for your suffering along your journey.
 
And I was massively triggered by a male chauvinist doctor this week. A old reel for me i did not want to see again.
i am in nursing home, 99% of all perpetrators are women here, sometimes i am getting treated bad because i am compared to their failed son's or (ex-)husbands.
and yet somehow i never came to think that it could be a women thing or even misandry... its just assholes who project and vent their crappy lives onto me because i am there.
And I was massively triggered by a male chauvinist doctor this week
i met plenty of those... and i am a boy.
could it be that he is just a asshole not because you are a female but because he is a moron?
that would make him not a chauvinist but a moronist.
 
I am truly sorry you deal with so much abuse from women. I certainly believe you.

I am sure you are in a very, at times, challenging situation. Holding space for you and your healing journey.

Do you have any access to counselors or therapists in there to vent and process your very real experiences?

Something that’s assisted me is internal family systems parts work. It is empowering because it helps you see when certain parts of you are triggered and where they come from. Emotions are just energy that wants to be moved and not trapped I remind myself. Easier said than done at times but this method has proved useful for me. Kinda hard when you are still living in it though. I should know. But, as the saying goes, do what you can, with what you have, where you are.
 

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