Freddd
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I agree that semantics are extremely important. It's really important to not create unrealistic expectations. But IMO it's even more important to keep hope alive, or maybe create hope of new possibilities where before hope did not exist.. Striking a balance between the two is frequently very hard.
For example, saying "CFS/ME/FMS can be cured using XXX protocol" is NOT the same thing as saying "You will cure your CFS/ME/FMS if you use XXX protocol". I think even sick people are capable of understanding the difference between "can" and "will".
At any rate, "can"-type language is used in medicine all the time. My mother was told that she could (can) cure her breast cancer using lumpectomy and radiation. She was not told radiation/lumpectomy would (will) cure her breast cancer, but that her cancer was something that can be cured if the right combination of therapies was used. She was also told that some tweaking of the regimen might have to occur, based on the results of her initial therapies.
My father was told the same thing when he was diagnosed with lung cancer, although his prognosis was much poorer. But was told his cancer could be cured if everything fell into place correctly. Far from creating unrealistic expectations, this language gave him hope even in the face of almost the worst diagnosis anyone can get.
I see our work with methylation as much the same type of thing as is practiced in cancer medicine. It's personalized, and a variety of therapies may be used depending on the person and the person's condition.
From my perspective, one of the biggest roadblocks we face here in being on the cutting edge of type of "personalized health" is that we don't have much authority to appeal to. Doctors are frequently wrong about many things, but just having them as authority to appeal to is comforting to many people. Not having that authority (like when being treated for cancer by an oncologist) can be a big psychological barrier to progress when the path to wellness is not a straight upward trajectory. Which it's not around here.
The other biggest roadblock I see is that most people inexperienced in alternative health starting doing something like methylation supps, and they expect taking a few supplements to be like taking antibiotics for infection: one smooth course of pills for a projected amount of time and then everything is done. All better! But health in general and alternative health in particular usually doesn't work like that. There is a fundamental misunderstanding of how the course of healing usually proceeds (it's frequently worse than the course to chronic illness). IMHO it's not language that creates unrealistic expectations so much as the lack of experience and/or lack of understanding.
Speaking for myself, I've had what I consider to be a long, hard battle with my health. Maybe not as hard as some people have had, but it's been bad enough. I've suffered at times from fatigue so severe I could barely drag myself out of bed to use the bathroom. I've suffered from chronic anemia for years and to this day lose over a pint of blood in 24 hours every single month due to female problems. That's always a lot of fun and creates a special type of irritable exhaustion. I've had brain fog so bad i couldn't think. For years I had monthly cramps so bad I would scream and vomit. At times I've lost hope in ever being well, to the point where I've been so suicidal I've actually had a gun in my mouth (more than once). A timely kiss on the leg by one of my dogs saved me from that once. A sudden glimmer of hope filtering into my mind from out of nowhere saved me another time.
Which is my larger point here: hearing that their problems can be cured gives people hope. IMHO hope is more important than anything else in this process. It can get smashed by unrealistic expectations but still come back if the right language is used to promote it.
Imparting understanding that the course of recovering health is not smooth is the second most important thing in this process.
When I hit this board I had given up hope that my energy problems would ever be cured. What I actually came here for was to maybe find a way to help me regrow some hair that I've lost. But energy and cognitive function? Meh. Pretty much given up on that. I had resigned myself to much reduced functioning for whatever years I have left. Also had resigned myself to the chronic galloping munchies, driving me to eat more than I needed and never being able to lose any weight.
But instead of hair, what I found here was @Freddd, imparting HOPE that with a lot of patience, hard work, and a willingness to experiment, I might actually *cure* my most pressing problems. I could lose weight! I could regain some energy! His experience was a total inspiration to me. Then as I read more and saw some other people here were having the same results, hope grew. I had my own encouraging results starting out, and hope is now stronger than ever.
It hasn't been easy or a straight upward trajectory for me. I got really sick when I first started the protocol...I was out of work for a week. I've had quite a variety of symptoms, from insomnia to extreme sleepiness, from being very calm to being hyper and hyper-irritable, and my energy still fluctuates up and down, sometimes to a disheartening degree. I still get brainfog...just recovering from a week where I haven't been able to concentrate on anything that requires more than stream of consciousness (like posting here ).
But I now have hope that, with my understanding of how the course of healing goes, I can one day lick these problems. I may never actually do it. I may never achieve my goal of feeling like I'm 25 again. My expectations may be unrealistic. But does that mean I shouldn't try? Does that mean I shouldn't hope for better than I've got now, even though what I've got now is much better than what I had four months ago?
I don't think it does.
So while I believe we should all strive not to create unrealistic expectations, I also believe it's even more important not to squelch discussion of the possibilities. What CAN happen with these supplements, if we persist and don't quit.
Freddd is a good example of what CAN happen. Not necessarily what WILL happen in every case, but what CAN. Personally, that gives me hope.
Just my $0.02.
Hope and hopelessness. It sounds like the title of a Jane Austin novel. I had enough symptoms blossoming by 1978 to concern me. I spent days at the libraries, reading journals and everything else the Reader's Guide could point me at. In 1979 I started a desiccated liver trial. It worked enough to know it worked but it lacked oomph. I hate liver and liver burps. I didn't adopt my grandfather's cook's method of making liver extract. It was better than raw liver puree. I duplicated the results of studies in the 1930's and 1940's. Then I made the rounds to doctors. Despite having copies of all these studies showing that Cyanocobalamin was not B12 except by official definition, 100% of doctors of all varieties said that getting the "real" B12s, AdoCbl and MeCbl is a nonsense idea and would make no difference. I went to approximately 10 docs per year trying to get a useful diagnosis and treatment. 100 doctors later and lot's of drugs and various treatments, and I was far worse and most of the treatments made me sicker. Every one of them told me I was completely wrong. The "mercury" docs were all sure they had the solution. There were all sorts of docs with all sorts of ideas and treatments. I kept track of every treatment and drug and side effect. Eventually I interviewed the docs and found out what hypothetical basis they were working form and then showed them all the treatments they could suggest had already failed. One even asked me why I didn't have even any placebo effect. I answered "because I keep track of everything by the day in detail". A lot of perceived placebo effect comes from normal variations being attributed to whatever was last done.
Each doc was sure they would nail it. They were all sure they understood and could treat it leading to a cure because from those confounding tests I didn't seem very sick. Some called me a liar to not admitting to being an alcoholic. I even went with the "toxins etc. in meat" hypothesis and did the vegetarian thing for 20 years. It almost killed me. Each time a different theory failed totally more hope went down the drain. I haven't heard of any new hypotheses in a long time, just recycled and re-reasoned hypotheses based on whatever the virus of the week, or some set of genes founds or whatever recent discoveries. I had a lot of near death experiences and they were almost always of the "You still have work to do". I wanted to die. I wanted to escape the unending misery. Getting sent back to serve out the life sentence over and over again was hell.
I got kicked out of practices for "having too many symptoms to be believable", for lying about really being an alcoholic (at that point I couldn't tolerate alcohol), for insisting that there was a "real B12" that might work on my symptoms, that I wouldn't accept "It's All In You Head" as the correct diagnosis, for looking up side effects and contraindications and so on in the PDR and refusing various drugs on that basis or that they had already failed for me with awful side effects.
Hope is what keeps people making efforts. When it is hopeless, why make effort in that direction. I've never gone to a doc who wasn't hopeful that their knowledge and theories could provide a working treatment and maybe a cure. After all I didn't have any "dread disease" or recognized incurable disease, so it was curable. In the mid 90s everything changed, the internet put lots of information at my fingertips. Starting in 2001 or so, when I was focused on finding any subset of my symptoms, like neuropathies, I started seeing people claiming being healed of neuropathies. There was only one thing mentioned in that connection, methyl B12, but only about 5% of the time. For the first time in a decade I had some hope again. At that time almost nobody mentioned the brand figuring MeCbl was MeCbl. 5% isn't much, unless there is a reason it is only 5% that can be corrected. It turned out to be all engineering from there. I had hope and got busy chasing down why it only worked 5% of the time. How much hope does it take to motivate a person to set out on a journey of 100,000 steps taking more than 5 years? If all a person is going to get out of it is a different variety of suffering what is the point? At that point the "hope" of alleviating 1 or 2 or 3 symptoms and leaving the other 200 untouched is kind of a bad joke.
Institutional blindness was something I had to learn to look into in my line of business. Docs don't do insurance fraud unless they think they can hide it in a blind spot. CFS/FMS/ME exists in the middle of a huge institutional blind spot. That happens to be the kind of problem I spent decades solving. As I state over and over, it is complicated, very touchy and no guarantees of any kind and it is a "game of skill". One has to be able to self observe and interpret accurately to have a chance. KNOW THY SELF. Nobody can do it for you. And it is a rough trail.
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