Don't delete your post, Gracenote! It was beautiful, and fits perfectly with the thread. I'm not a Buddhist either, just very interested in it, like you. I think the original intent of this thread was (and overall still is) to discuss how we each have sought to reconcile our personal philosophies of mind/spirituality/ life with the conflicts created by ME/CFS. Buddhism just happens to be a philosophy that deals very explicitly with suffering, and I guess it's been useful to many people in dealing with this disease. But there are many, many similarities between Buddhism and Christianity, so it seems logical that this thread should accomodate both, esp. in comparison of their teachings relevant to each of our situations.
You bring up more deep points than I can even address at the moment! (REALLY wiped) One thing you said:
"My parents not only taught me doctrine that was life-smothering, they also led me to know that I could access a spiritual realm that was eternal and life-giving. This connection to life, to love, to the non-material world was a sometimes dim light that never got completely snuffed out throughout all my confusion and distress."
..got me to realize (for like the millionth time) that I really don't know much about the
philosophy of Christianity, or the deep beliefs of different sects within it. I mean, I'm familiar with the Old and New Testaments but the only thing I know beyond that about modern day Christianity is what I hear from the occasionally broadcast sermon. All I know about 'fundamentalism' is from rhetoric on TV, which I've always figured represents a particularly dogmatic (if powerful) extremist fringe. I'd be really interested to learn more about it than THAT.
"What made it so excruciatingly, almost disastrously, difficult, was that they also taught me that I could not trust my self, my feelings, my intuition. Especially as a woman — you know, that Eve thing." One of the hardest things to accept about most Indian religions/philosophies is they deny that the 'ego', even the personality, is "real"... that our true essence (soul, whatever) is something other than what we are used to calling "ourself", and that it perishes with the rest of the body at death. (There has always been some difference of opinion on the extent of this, but overall I think this is a pretty accurate generalization). So, in a very real way, Hinduism, Jainism and Buddhism all teach that you cannot trust yourself (unless you are in tune with the "true" self) or your feelings. This led to quite a bit of existential angst for me, too! The one comforting aspect I found (but not all would find!) was that at least the "true self" can be trusted, as internally we are identical to the Ultimate, not its subjects...thus we can trust our intuition IF our minds are disciplined, i.e. we can understand and control our emotions.
I've read in a few places about the issue of the "Fall from the Garden" in Biblical religions, and how that shaped the cultures that followed them, particularly in regards to the status of women. If you regard Nature as unholy, or shameful, or "fallen", then you tend to regard women the same way, since they tend to be symbolic of the human connection to Nature in most cultures. But Biblical religions are not unique in this; many Indian religious philosophers regarded much of the natural world as either bestial or illusory, and therefore women were again seen as ties to the material (illusory) world, or to our more animalistic components. This view waxed and waned over time, depending on the culture in question...In some, women could be revered as saints or gurus too, while in others (esp. earlier ones) women were not even considered capable of attaining enlightenment, due to their "biological function" as "Mother Earth", which grounded them to the material dimension. The common ingredient in most of these misogynistic Biblical and Indian religions is a patriarchal society and a disgust with the natural world...Even some early Buddhists (very differently from Zen Buddhists, as I understand it) derided the body as "bad" or "sinful", as in the "Fire Sermon" (which purports to be by the Buddha himself but is almost certainly not). Fortunately, there have always been more liberating strains of all of these religions and philosophies that do not hold women in a lower "spiritual plane".
Wow have I been rambling on without making a point! Sorry, gracenote.. and I didn't even get to the last thing you brought up, which is really deep! Oh well. That may be the worst thing, for me...not being able to pursue my "soul's calling" because I cant even think straight, let alone deeply, due to ME/CFS. I guess dealing with that sort of thing is mainly what this thread was started for. So...don't delete your post!
btw gracenote, earlier were you were asking about the story of Buddha's life? If so, the version I remember most is Edwin Arnold's poem "The Light of Asia", which introduced Buddhism to colonial Europe way back when. But to be honest I'd rather have Koan tell it in her own wonderful way!