Hi,
For myself, I was diagnosed with B-12 deficiency, so I knew that I needed it, but as a rule, if you have a strong response to (esp) small amounts of methyl B-12, it suggests you need it. In cases where people do not have a deficiency, the experience has been that they have little or no reaction to it. Fredd has done a lot of experimenting on people he meets or knows, giving them B-12 tablets and then seeing what happens, and has seen many people who have no reaction at all to mB-12 who are healthy.
I also had to go to the ER, but it was for my thyroid, when it went similarly crazy to what it feels like with B-12 -- what a ridiculous stressful experience to go there! But sometimes you just don't know what's going on, so if you are taking care of yourself, it makes sense to just go to be on the safe side. Of course, they just tell you to stop or lower whatever it is you are taking.
This is the thread I would recommend reading on what co-factors to take, etc.:
http://forums.phoenixrising.me/index.php?threads/active-b12-protocol-basics.10138/
The absorption of B-12 from food will depend on the state of your gut -- there is only a small section of the intestines that is able to absorb B-12 and if it gets damaged, you are unable to absorb it easily from food. B-12 is also not the easiest thing to absorb in general because it is a relatively big and complex molecule (see:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vitamin_B12), so older people can develop deficiencies as they lose the ability to absorb nutrients as well.
Taking a sublingual tablet bypasses any possible digestive issues.
But I can understand the desire to try to get it naturally when the pill form is so startling at first. I think that's fine. Eventually things start to naturally balance out.
Yes, isn't the internet amazing? I remember how incredibly grateful I was when I found the B-12 forum while the doctors were mostly ignorant. At any time of the day there was always someone who could help.
There are a number of co-factors listed in the thread above that you can take, but if you are having a big reaction at this point, those can wait. You might add a few things you know won't bother you, Vit C, D, etc., but I would not recommend starting methylfolate or carnitine or others you are not familiar with until you get more comfortable with the B-12.
Others on here will make other recommendations. I can only advise based on my own experience.
I'd be interested to know what got you to decide to try B-12. And hang in there!