I'm sorry you've had to deal with such difficult things.
What type of stroke did you have? my husband had a left brain severe one, and currently is aphasic but speech is improving gradually.
Im so curious what has truly happened to him. Because he can't tell me, in detail. whats going on...how did it affect his memory? There is so much I do not understand....but hope it improves wiht more time.
HI...very sorry to hear about your husband. My last one was a Thalamic stroke caused by undiagnosed high blood pressure. It was apparently mild! ...and was missed mainly because one symptom can be Ataxia and I already had Ataxia since my 30's! (so already a wheelchair user).
From this one it was like I suddenly developed ADHD with problems with attention and focus, problems with executive functions (been able to plan, work out what to do in what order...cooking a meal for example...so everything is ready at the same time). Some memory issues...facial recognition..(failed to recognise neighbours until they said their name etc).
I'd had a cerebellar stroke in my 30's ..just purely physical symptoms that time..splitting one sided headaches,..vision disturbances that came and went ...then woke up one day and couldn't walk.. complete loss of balance and fine motor co-ordination, was rushed to hospital... but got back about partial mobility...(though was originally misdiagnosed as 'possible MS')
In 2019 my left leg swelled up to double its size due to a blood clot..I got blood thinners...it took a while to go down but did eventually return to normal size. I didn't have any other symptoms that time except for the severe pain from the leg and crippling fatigue for about a month I was bedbound.
After this last one my balance went temporarily worse again and had a couple of falls but with daily physio that has improved again and gaming has got my visual-spatial skills and fine motor skills working again. My ability to plan again is improving when the fatigue and brain fog isnt too bad) and focus and co-ordination is improving again from video games. This time the Tinnitus has been constant which is exhausting (for my brain and making the fatigue levels more severe).
I really struggled to control my temper at first, everything was too overwhelming and too confusing .. and mood swings were severe but peri-menopause could also be impacting that.... with an estrogen cream and treating blood pressure those issues have calmed down. ..and frustration decreased as some of the other issues have improved.
From experience I would say Frustration will be your husbands biggest issue right now, his whole world has turned upside down and he can't talk to anyone about it... focus on finding a way to communicate with him. Look into ipad/android apps ..for people with aphasia to help them express emotions and sentences.. ..can program a virtual button to say a whole sentence or he can construct a sentence using symbols ..eg press a pic of an apple may open the food category where he can choose what he wants.... ..a smiley face icon may open a page where i can say 'I feel'..and choose ... his stroke specialist should know about these apps etc to help him express himself more easily until his speech recovers.
Hope that helps a little