You're right, Mark, it's value for value. Besides, walking the dog and having sex and watching t.v. is in the upper percentile for most relationships anyway...I know a number of "healthy" couples who are so stressed by life and kids and the long years of marriage they don't walk the dog together nor have sex anymore.
So. Your value changes when you get sick, so you have to look at your new status on the ladder (lower) and see who's at your level. Sounds crude but there's some reality in it. You may also have gained some new perspectives (athletics is nice, but a kind heart is more significant). You may find yourself interested in someone who can offer things that you didn't even notice before.
Even so, it's hard to be sick and that's the truth.
Heya Jenbooks. Wow, that's really terrible married people would be able to live together that way. I guess it can happen over time, but geeze seems like the couple should be willing to work at the relationship more than that. Just not having sex and walking the dog together? I feel so sorry for the poor dogs!
I guess the athletics are nice for me, but more importantly just finding a woman that trys to stay healthy and look good is important. Probably women are looking at men thinking, if I could just find a guy who is ambitious and confident.
Thanks for breaking the ice on how you get by sexually on a topic that is often difficult for most people to discuss. It's great you are getting some sexual pleasure when you can!
I also admire your positive outlook and ability to get the most out of life. You are truely inspirational for me by the way you have overcome your health problems and have made the best out of it.
wishing you all the best,