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Hello.
I am a FT caregiver for my daughter, who’s in her early 30s and has suffered from ME/CFS for four years (the past two years severe, and the past 9 months extremely severe). She got sick after a virus in 2019 and has been in a gradual decline since. She’s been housebound since the end of 2020 and completely bed bound since October 2022. In December 2022, she was diagnosed w/ hEDS & a tethered cord, but the surgeon said she isn’t well enough for surgery. He referred her for an MCAS evaluation; we are in the process of coordinating with a specialist and a local doctor.
Up until early May 2023, besides severe PEM, brain fog, & general pain, her primary symptoms were OI and extreme sensory sensitivity/overstimulation. Digestion was pretty good overall but she avoided dairy (due to lactose intolerance) and insisted on continuing to consume soymilk, which consistently made her gassy.
However, about 8 weeks ago, after a 5-day trial of zinc to prevent bed sores, she started experiencing excruciating stomach pain for hours after each meal. Now she's becoming more and more sensitive to foods she could previously tolerate. She’s panicking that this stomach pain will also become chronic. It’s becoming difficult for her to eat enough. She describes the stomach pain like "stomach PEM," and her stomach can’t tolerate the quantity or type of food. On a bad day, even drinking water or swallowing saliva hurts.
No constipation, diarrhea, vomiting, or bloody stools. Some gas, mostly related to the soymilk... We had an appointment scheduled with a GI doc a couple weeks ago but when the office called to confirm, they told us the doctor couldn't handle a patient coming in on a stretcher (even though we'd told them about her condition when scheduling)...
I’m leaving out A LOT of details, but hopefully nothing relevant.
My daughter asked me to post these questions, which I have typed from her handwritten notes:
Thank you!!!
I am a FT caregiver for my daughter, who’s in her early 30s and has suffered from ME/CFS for four years (the past two years severe, and the past 9 months extremely severe). She got sick after a virus in 2019 and has been in a gradual decline since. She’s been housebound since the end of 2020 and completely bed bound since October 2022. In December 2022, she was diagnosed w/ hEDS & a tethered cord, but the surgeon said she isn’t well enough for surgery. He referred her for an MCAS evaluation; we are in the process of coordinating with a specialist and a local doctor.
Up until early May 2023, besides severe PEM, brain fog, & general pain, her primary symptoms were OI and extreme sensory sensitivity/overstimulation. Digestion was pretty good overall but she avoided dairy (due to lactose intolerance) and insisted on continuing to consume soymilk, which consistently made her gassy.
However, about 8 weeks ago, after a 5-day trial of zinc to prevent bed sores, she started experiencing excruciating stomach pain for hours after each meal. Now she's becoming more and more sensitive to foods she could previously tolerate. She’s panicking that this stomach pain will also become chronic. It’s becoming difficult for her to eat enough. She describes the stomach pain like "stomach PEM," and her stomach can’t tolerate the quantity or type of food. On a bad day, even drinking water or swallowing saliva hurts.
No constipation, diarrhea, vomiting, or bloody stools. Some gas, mostly related to the soymilk... We had an appointment scheduled with a GI doc a couple weeks ago but when the office called to confirm, they told us the doctor couldn't handle a patient coming in on a stretcher (even though we'd told them about her condition when scheduling)...
I’m leaving out A LOT of details, but hopefully nothing relevant.
My daughter asked me to post these questions, which I have typed from her handwritten notes:
- What advice would you give someone with extremely severe ME/CFS whose stomach was just starting to decline?
- What are the main things you think caused your stomach to decline?
- What do you think you did that was helpful?
- What do you regret doing/wish you’d done differently?
- Advice on how I can retain the capacity to eat and drink for as long as possible (and ideally never fully lose it)?
- Advice on how to retain the capacity to eat and drink as much variety of food as possible and get as many calories from food and drink as possible, for as long as possible?
- What was your experience like seeing GI doctors? Did you get any benefit from trying to treat any underlying stomach issues? Any harm from these testing/treatments?
- What was your experience with trying new oral meds during the period your stomach was declining but you were still eating and drinking? Did the new meds cause stomach crashes? How did increasing/decreasing meds or supplements you were already on affect your stomach? My hunch is that new oral meds will cause severe stomach crashes for me and I’m not sure if I’m at the point I need to take new meds by IV.
- At what point should I get a feeding tube? IV nutrition? Or saline IV? A PIC line? Is there anything you wish you’d known about these things before getting them?
- Is there anything you do to reduce stomach/GI pain/discomfort? Do you think any of these things reduce the speed of your stomach decline or are they solely to reduce pain?
- Is there anything you wish you’d done in the earliest stages of your stomach decline to ensure you were more comfortable or in a less life-threatening situation while your stomach was much worse?
- For example, I wish that in the early stages of my blood pressure/blood regulation decline I’d gotten my body used to elevating my legs, wearing stockings, and lying on my back. Now I can’t do any of those things w/o blood regulation crashes, but if I’d gotten my body familiar with them before blood regulation issues got too bad, I probably would be able to tolerate them now.
- Any other wisdom you would share?
Thank you!!!