I'm so sorry for your family's loss, @vickster...it is our loss as well. Bob was as kind and patient a person as I've ever encountered, and the way that he was treated by the medical community in his worst time of need was deplorable. I'm sure that we all wish that we could tell him how much he meant to us, but we'll have to be satisfied with telling you...
I remember Bob’s sense of accomplishment when he saw that he had notched 10,000 posts on Phoenix Rising! Take a look at his post and others commemorating that happy occasion. Mark suggested that Bob be considered a ‘hero member:’
Congratulations Bob, an my apologies that we aren't yet set up to recognise such milestones; I think a new category of 'hero member' might be appropriate...
This fine paper was published in BMC Psychology which requires signed reviews, to be published with the paper. You can peek in on the transparent editorial process of original submission, reviews, and revisions leading up to the final version. Disclosure: I was a reviewer.
Beautiful tribute @Graham (and to all of Bob's other family and friends). Bob had very kind eyes and a nice smile in spite of how ill he clearly felt and how much he suffered. In my very brief conversations with him here on PR, his sense of humor always shined through as was written in the tribute. Once the inquest is over and the memorial service is in place, please keep us informed how we can pay a proper tribute to Bob.
Don’t worry - you don't need to register or give your email address.
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Thanks Sasha. Just to add to that, I have editing rights, so if you have typed something in and posted it, but then aren't happy, I can edit it for you. It would be best to PM me rather than post here though, just to make sure I don't miss it.
It isn't a clear process at all @bertiedog ! We are discussing ways of helping out.
Hi, I’m Robs sister, it’s lovely reading all your comments, I knew he did some ‘stuff’ on forums but never knew the extent of it.
Myself or Graham will let you know when rob’s Funeral is, we’re not sure on a date yet.
Hi Vicky, I just wanted to say how sorry I am for your, and your family's, loss. My sincerest condolences.
I didn't know Bob personally but, from all I've read, he was one in a million and will be greatly missed. What a terrible state of affairs. It's just heartbreaking.
May Bob Rest In Peace.
@Tom Kindlon thank you for the fb post. I had no idea just how much Bob did for the ME community. Amazing strength and dedication. A void that is irreplaceable. Rest In Peace Bob, no pain, no harm, no illness.
How many times had I stumbled across a thread only to find Bob's signature clarity washing right through it. I sometimes came to feel aggrieved, that here I was picking up the pieces of a discussion that Bob had remedied in just a handful of replies. The penny having landed Bob had moved on. There I was, left alone and without friends, sticking my hand in the air telling everyone I knew the answer only to find that Bob had found the answer, polished it up, mailed it on, and was sat smoking a large cuban.
I only ever went into chat once. Bob from ''Brighton'' popped in. We spoke briefly. He was testing the waters, finding his way around. I was a relative veteran, a status assumed by all those in welcoming a new member.
After all these years I still remember that briefest of conversations. I am minded to believe that the impression he made upon me was beyond the sum of parts. Perhaps that was Bob, so much more than what you might think or hear, or read. Afterall how could I miss someone that I never really knew. But miss him I do. And miss him I will.
Perhaps in time I will come to read some of his old posts. In some sense he hasn't left us, he will always be here.
But for now I will remember beyond all else the kind soul that he is.