Thank you silicon and camas (serenity and ggingues too). Knowing that some people out there think that this isn't normal or acceptable helps. It really does. It's helping me to focus on getting angry at being treated this way, which is hard to do when I'm overwhelmed with the "how's" of all the things I need to find answers for. Unfortunately, anger doesn't trump real and basic needs--though some way has to exist. I've come to the conclusion that we all need someone who wants us to be as well as we can be and to whom it really matters; operating in a vacuum doesn't work. I don't want my story to be like this, and I think that's true for just about everyone here. This place and everybody here helps though, and that's a lot.