The question I ask myself is, if there is indeed a virus causing ME/CFS and other major problems that is as easily transmittable and causes the very significant symptoms in most people that you've stated wouldn't there be a widespread epidemic of people with these symptoms? All the people you've supposedly infected are contagious and infecting others, and they further infect others, and so on exponentially, and the symptoms are quite serious.
Those were my exact thoughts when I first caught my virus, this idea that my virus might spread exponentially like a global influenza epidemic, and cause havoc worldwide. My virus was not very contagious: one person with my virus would take around a year to infect all the other members of his household; but I observed the contagion to all other householders was almost guaranteed once one household member had the virus. So I thought, well, it may take a decade or two, but my virus will slowly spread to the whole world.
However, after reading something about enterovirus epidemiology, I learnt that enterovirus outbreaks don't work like that. They do not undergo long-term exponential growth. Enterovirus outbreaks of coxsackievirus B or echovirus will grow bigger and bigger over the course of a few years, but then instead of continuing to grow, they will start to fade away. Nobody quite knows why this is. Of course there are quite a few serotypes of coxsackievirus B and echovirus, so when one outbreak fades away, another may start.
Why do so many people with ME/CFS have wives and husbands with no health problems? (including my own)
It is possible that not all enteroviruses spread like mine did. One characteristic of my virus is that it would cause a
permanent sore throat in around ⅓ of people who caught it, and
permanent nasal inflammation and overproduction of nasal mucous (meaning you have to keep blowing you nose) in around ⅔ of people who caught it. I think both these ongoing respiratory infections/inflammations, are likely constantly shedding viral particles in the saliva and mucous, making people with my virus possibly permanently contagious to others. I think these permanent respiratory infections enables my virus to spread to many.
However, if the enterovirus you catch does not cause these permanent respiratory infections, it may not so easy transmit from you to others.
In a sense, my chronically contagious virus provided the perfect opportunity to observe the effects of a ME/CFS-triggering virus on the general population. And as I mentioned, in the 30+ people I know who caught my virus, nobody developed full ME/CFS like me, but many people
permanently developed certain symptoms that you find in ME/CFS, like such as increased fatigue, sound or light sensitivity, or "tip of the tongue" phenomena where you temporarily forget a common word or person's name.
So from the evidence I gathered as my virus spread to many people, it became clear to me that elements of ME/CFS can appear in lots of people that catch an enterovirus. I just think I may have had certain factors present in my body that made the virus hit me much harder than anyone else, explaining why I permanently developed full ME/CFS, but everyone else who caught my virus were just hit with one or two mild (though permanent) ME/CFS symptoms.
But make no mistake, it was abundantly clear that my virus is capable of producing these mild ME/CFS symptoms in a lot of people.
So that is something that I think needs to be taken on board in this discussion.