Hi all
Having a but of a wobble today. My husband spoke to my gp a few months ago, he went to see her for me as I wasnt up to it. Just to renew my medications and update her on how I was doing. Shes great although I'm sure she thinks hes buried me under the patio or something Haha. I probably look a complete idiot sending him in my place.
Anyway he told her my smear was overdue and she said not to worry etc as it cant be done at home and I cant get to them so to not stress right now. She wants my anxiety and depression to calm as last year I had s complete breakdown. I've said before everything got on top of me. I'd stayed strong for 5 year after my Nan died, my brother attacked me, my mum and sisters hurt me by turning their backs on me, then my son was bullied and became suicidal and wham my health issues began. All of that happened in the space of 3 years. I stayed strong for 2 years after it all ut wham last year I broke. I ended up shaking all day, 12 hour panic attacks, I lost weight, couldn't function at all and my cfs hit harder than ever. It's taken me about 16 months to start to slowly improve. I've been out a couple of times this year for a short drive, I can just about get into the garden once a day to see my pets, I'm now showering again, doing the washing of clothes, cooking dinner twice a week... I have to rest so much after each chore and I'm still badly fatigued but I'm trying to rebuild myself. I felt last year I broke into tiny pieces and I'm now learning to rebuild myself. I probably sound a complete fool lol.
Anyway, a few days ago a smear test reminder came from my actual doctors. I cried as it noted my last smear was 2 months away from 4 years ago. I broke down crying to hubby, as he had told my gp about my worries and she said they'd not send a reminder for the time being. This letter I know is routine but the wording of it frightened me. I've attended every 3 years on time, never had any bad results or issues. This letter stressed its vital I attend and it has triggered my health anxiety bad.
I've not been able to attend dentist, optician or my go for a couple of years almost due to all this hell I've been through. I suffered agoraphobia after I was attacked but then got out again, attended appointments again and life was getting better but since how bad the cfs has been and the breakdown last year I've struggled again. This letter has just terrified me that all women get abnormal smears maybe at some point, that why they're important as they can catch cells when they're pre cancerous if you go on time, so if I leave it and I do have them I could die by the time I do go. Nasty thoughts like that. My hubby said not all women have pre cancerous cells in their life time, he bets it's quite rare but I've been worrying how high that risk is. My sister had them but she was told it was due to her behaviour, she was very promiscuous as a teenager and had sex from age 14. My mum was always fine. I'm now 39, had 2 partners my whole life, sorry too much info. My smears have always been ok. I know this is also too much info but I've not had sex in years, well before my last smear test in late summer 2015 haha poor hubby (again sorry too much info but cfs and anxiety, I had enough on my plate, sex was the last thing on my mind lol). Hubby and u celebrate our 18th year wedding anniversary this Sunday, I dont knownwhy he loves and sticks by me but he does.
I have no mum to turn to, no close female friends with cfs or anxiety that would understand my situation. I have a couple of close friends but they dont have chronic health issues so I try not to discuss it much. Sorry I'm offloading here, I've just been crying my eyes out beating myself up about what I currently can't do, feeling I'm a terrible mother for neglecting myself 😥
J