I know that some on here have a much more difficult experience of moving, given that social housing with a disability is hard to obtain, so I I am lucky to have choices to be able to afford to buy. I am 70 this year, currently living on top of a very steep hill with no transport - beautiful view but I am trying to look to the future and how I will cope. I am moving from a low cost ex-Council property in Cornwall into one bedroom retirement flat, near London - so not I am not at the luxury end.
I posted a while back about moving house (UK) but it stalled badly and has added to stress and exhaustion re the process. My husband of 47 years died 2 years ago (anniversary coming up on this coming Mon 7th), and so I am doing this alone and with no relatives nearby. The plan being that I can move nearer to a supportive son, many miles from where I am now.
I am lucky that my ME is not severe, or I could not do this but last year I got quite exhausted following mild Covid at the end of 2020 and felt I had gone backwards. I have increased my thyroid meds a little, (T3) which I can do without much challenge at present, but in moving I will no doubt open a can of worms on that score and could lose my NHS supply. I am also trialling some supplements in case they help - NT Factor Energy very expensive, for one...
I changed agents about a month ago and my new one sold the house for me within 2 weeks to a cash buyer who is paying £40,000 above the asking price so I am hopeful again and trying to get organised as anxiety began to rise. I have a removal firm booked who will do all the packing for me and dispose of anything I fail to rehome before the day - this has taken a huge stress from me as I don't drive and some things may not get rehomed.
In the process of all of this, along with still trying to process grief, I decided to get some support in the way of therapy, especially as he is cheapish and comes to my house. However although Week 1 went well, Week 2 was a bit of a disaster, given that he called me a negative word at one point, and I had to call him out on it afterwards (by email), and he has apologised. I will give Week 3 a go and see... but don't want to cause myself more damage - on his website he says one thing about how he operates with listening, but in reality it felt like he did another (called me at one point a 'chatterbox') and I found myself being defensive in my communication after that. I had years of being 'shut down' by my husband, as it wasn't exactly a marriage made in heaven, and I sure don't want more of that. He told me he suffers from ADHD and I do wonder about if counselling is a good fit for someone who has that?
I posted a while back about moving house (UK) but it stalled badly and has added to stress and exhaustion re the process. My husband of 47 years died 2 years ago (anniversary coming up on this coming Mon 7th), and so I am doing this alone and with no relatives nearby. The plan being that I can move nearer to a supportive son, many miles from where I am now.
I am lucky that my ME is not severe, or I could not do this but last year I got quite exhausted following mild Covid at the end of 2020 and felt I had gone backwards. I have increased my thyroid meds a little, (T3) which I can do without much challenge at present, but in moving I will no doubt open a can of worms on that score and could lose my NHS supply. I am also trialling some supplements in case they help - NT Factor Energy very expensive, for one...
I changed agents about a month ago and my new one sold the house for me within 2 weeks to a cash buyer who is paying £40,000 above the asking price so I am hopeful again and trying to get organised as anxiety began to rise. I have a removal firm booked who will do all the packing for me and dispose of anything I fail to rehome before the day - this has taken a huge stress from me as I don't drive and some things may not get rehomed.
In the process of all of this, along with still trying to process grief, I decided to get some support in the way of therapy, especially as he is cheapish and comes to my house. However although Week 1 went well, Week 2 was a bit of a disaster, given that he called me a negative word at one point, and I had to call him out on it afterwards (by email), and he has apologised. I will give Week 3 a go and see... but don't want to cause myself more damage - on his website he says one thing about how he operates with listening, but in reality it felt like he did another (called me at one point a 'chatterbox') and I found myself being defensive in my communication after that. I had years of being 'shut down' by my husband, as it wasn't exactly a marriage made in heaven, and I sure don't want more of that. He told me he suffers from ADHD and I do wonder about if counselling is a good fit for someone who has that?