MeSci
ME/CFS since 1995; activity level 6?
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I downloaded a copy of DSM5 the other day and skimmed over it. It really needs to be scrapped.
The brain/body illnesses that create horrendous suffering and destroy lives need a new definition. @Hip I do respect your knowledge base on mental illness, having just read your latest posts here, but the defining of "disorders" has gone waaaaay too far when it makes normal human behavior into pathology.
Stigma? I have a story or two for those who think we should not be concerned about this. You cannot ignore stigmata when you live with people or develop close relationships.
Tell a new boyfriend you have a history of depression, in the past, resolved - and watch your IQ seemingly drop 80 points when they start infantilizing.
I grew up in a closed society where mental illness was considered shameful and a character weakness, and I guess your family member is supposed to be hidden away in a back bedroom and ignored. I did not have depression - yet. I was withdrawn emotionally because of mental and emotional abuse. I think that was the trigger, a bad and unending situation that then kicked off biology. My mother took it to the extreme, choosing to ignore me and withhold love to "toughen me up." I grew up isolated and alienated in a houseful of people, and to this day I am scapegoated for everything wrong in the family. Years of counseling have shown me the dysfunctional patterns of rigidity similar to alcoholic family systems (any excess), and on learning the many faces of mental abuse, I began to heal emotionally. Scapegoating was a huge issue, and it was a relief to understand it. My mother would gaslight and mock me. It was awful. I finally have had to stay away from family members completely. They hear everything I say with a skeptical filter, judging my credibility because obviously I am "not all there." Ha, ha. Saying these illnesses are permanent and lifelong sells drugs. I think they can be healed.
Although I have emphasized the difference between organic physical illness and situational events, of course the two become intertwined. I do not know if "biological permission" would have allowed depression to develop if I had grown up in a loving environment. I will never know.
I also know that once I had a course of antibiotics at age 11 for bronchitis, my life changed forever. In retrospect, what many call "CFS-lite" showed up in my teen years. Insomnia began at age 12. Energy was always low, whether because of depression, sleep deprivation, or the beginnings of a neuro immune disorder. I would guess all three.
The shocker here for me is that I am openly talking about it. I am in my 50s, and finally feel safe enough to discuss it. That is pathetic by itself.
I like the yes/no format of the poll because of the discussion it sparked.
I think the stigma is hard to accept and/or ignore because it is as damaging as any other prejudice.
Your story could almost be my own, @GracieJ. It was very well described and rationalised. Thank you.