Me: Not taking sides.. I have to figue this out for myself. How do you know there is an ? around Joey's parents house that is not directly from the house? The house has to breath in some sense doesnt it? The laundry room in my old house did me in.. it vents out.
I probably wont pitch a tent but if I do, I'll let you all know what happens. I need to go outside and sit for periods and may need a sleeping bag or some sort of insulation for that unless it warms up some here.
Our move was very traumatic for me. I do not regret getting out. Lisa did not make me move. actually I met a man by chance in the grocery store who tripped that wire. He heard me say mold to my neighbor who I met up with at a corner in the store and walked over to me.. said he thought he had lyme and found out it was mold.. he moved and is 90% better after csm and other therapies.
In a perfect world, we would have found a house in VA to rent but we didnt. My gro store friend got the hell out as soon as his ERMI results came back.. literally. Idont know how it all came together so well for him and his family but it did. Probably one reason is he didnt second guess his decision and another reason is that he had not developed chronic fatigue, and if he had it was a milder version.
Ive had CFS myself for only 2 years but Im toast. He did say that the ablity to handle stress was one of the first things to go for him. He is doing really well in VA so if ? is there with all the algae covered ponds (which I thought was included in the ? factor at some point) then the ? doesnt keep him sick. If the ? is here, its not keeping my sister or my parents bedridden.. they function better than me and my parents are 72.. admitting neurontin and other meds are holding them up. They do not have CFS!
My decision to move to AL from VA was based on the fact that I was deteriorating emotionally from I think "hits" in the house from dust as well as physically. Though before the dust hits, I started to feel my muscles beginnig to recover.. a fast trip to the store was not an overwhelming idea. Before I had to plan for a day I could manage to go and plan for days to crash.
There was an obvoius connection to the dust and I wonder if at that point I was unmasking in my "mold" house since the remediation nd experiencing intensification reactions.. I would lose it emtoionally, dive into depression and sometimes to the point of suicidal. We looked for places to move into but my ability to endure that was just not there. My husband didnt know what to do. We had no clue a new house would be a problem. that I would unmask though I was told this could happen.. just didnt sink in the load of chemicals in a new house.
We were hoping to find a new townhome to then later use as rental income and then move from VA. It would take 6 months to have one built because market is so slow.. I was too afraid that any older place would have mold. I was not able to think clearly about this and my husband was at a loss. At the same time, every bone in my body and brain was telling me to get the hell out of not only my house, but VA. In my swollen brain there was a blazing NO that would come up on my forehead if Va was mentioned. So I was primed emotionally for some reason to leave VA.
So I call my parents devastated.. I dont know what to do but I have to get out of here. My father has property that he started to develop with a builder and one of the houses was almmost ready.. I need help. My husband has been staying home from work days to help.. so it seemed a good way to go.. time with family.. time for the kids to get to know g=parents. Biggest problem was my husband would have to travel back and forth until house cleaned out (which he would have to do on his own anyway... I was and am afraid of the dust and the effect..this is a state you do not just pull yourself out of.. you have to wait it out).
Our house was already "remediated" The problem was it had not been cleaned, cloth, stufffed items had not been trashed.. it may or not be livable for me one day. But I dont think I will take that chance.
So the move I took did not have to be so hard. I dont blame anyone for that. I dont have problems with people sharing their diff experiences and POV..
I do have problems with no counter POV.. and I appreciate this here. I esp appreciate the civil tone you all are using. ive been ion mold venues where people are not civil or its one way OR the other and that is very difficult for someone in crisis to work through. I just wishe there were more views and experiences openly shared.
How many people left a home and kept objects .. I would love to hear from you? Moved and threw everything away? Remediated and got better?
I know from reading SHoemaker's info that he uses the EMRI, which is flawed in my opinion, to measure if your house is livable. He can correlate his biotoxin labs to EMRi findings.. so he is not yet at least in the pristine faction.. yet he will not prescribe (grapevine) VIP unless ERMI results are good. It wont work if you are still being exposed. The question is what measur edo you use for determining that.. and how far do you take it? What is the cost.. benefit ratio for the decisions we make?
So in addition to the ? potentially in the air, there are alot of ????? that are also factors. If I drive my ANS to the brink worrying about ?, I could kill myself. There has to be some sense of the big picture.. does that make sense?
I am also not convinced ? is or is always responsible for the identified ? symptoms. Or if ? is not a chemical in the air that triggers something internal.. too many factors to say an ? in the air caused my ANS to whack out. I have pooling in my legs.. I dont think its electrical, classic OI-POTs the most extreme Ive espreiences.. im not only hyperadrengeric at this point.. its not all glutmate based though thats involved. .. but I just moved my family out of the house they grew up in.. left everything behind.. feel like shit... and moved into (I should have known) the cruelest sorry to say Christian community I have ever encountered (in recent years) justiposed to the addict culture (which the Christians here are manifesting btw in their own way).. classic either or dysfunction which ironically fits right into the mold community if you think about it.. mold wars that Ive run into .. the energy is just overwhelmingly nasty at times and Im too sensitive to deal with it.. so thats a factor as well. How much do we need to load on?
Honestly there are all kind of avoidance one may need to practice to get well. Frustrated but appreciate info to a point.
Originally Posted by jenbooks
I haven't been everywhere by any means, but anyway Robin is it possible to set up a good tent with a safe little space heater to warm it and a super good sleeping bag (I just picked up a floor model that goes down to 20 degrees) and see if you feel better sleeping outside for a week? It will give you info instead of worrying about stuff.
I think that's a really good idea.
It's actually what Joey did when he went back to his parents' house in southern California. He didn't feel good in the house, which wasn't surprising since the ERMI test and the mold dog indicated problems and there also were chemical issues. Setting up a tent and then finding that he still felt much worse than he had in either Santa Cruz or Columbus -- and that coffee enemas (which address toxicity) made a difference in his symptoms -- made it more clear to him that a core problem there is something outside.
Nothing you can do about the outside air except hope for a change (e.g. in seasons) or move.
Knowing what substances are bothering us is the first step toward avoiding them. I do experiments like that routinely.
Sleeping in a tent in the middle of winter is not a lot of fun, but the possibility of feeling better and of gaining useful info may make it worthwhile. I'm looking forward to hearing what happens if you decide to do it, Soulfest.
Best, Lisa