starryeyes
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I'm mostly bedridden with moderate to severe ME and Fibro plus the worst case of endometriosis the lab at Cedars Sinai has ever seen.
My Fibro doctor who I have to see for disability tells me like you would talk to a kid that I just need to make up my mind to start exercising. I've been trying to explain for decades that I want to exercise but it makes me extremely sick, and causes me exorbitant pain that lasts for days – I know you all know what I mean. I have told him verbally and in writing that I can't even do most activities of daily living or exertion of any kind without torturous consequences. He agrees that I'm disabled (thank God) but he sees me as someone who can still exercise.
A decade or so ago when I could exercise some it was still never enough for him. I've tried explaining to him that I used to really enjoy exercising and that I want to now but I can't and round and round we go. He is correct that exercise helps Fibro patients, but not if they also have ME of course, but he thinks I'm just trying to make up excuses.
Does anyone have any idea of what I could possibly say to him to make him understand that exercise is contraindicated for ME and could make me worse? I can't change doctors, I've tried and my other choices are way worse for me than he is.
I know this issue is universal for us and I already know the consequences of pushing and crashing but what can I say to him when he starts in on me about this so that maybe he can understand my plight? I'm so mad and frustrated about this situation I'm afraid I might just start yelling at him or worse.
My Fibro doctor who I have to see for disability tells me like you would talk to a kid that I just need to make up my mind to start exercising. I've been trying to explain for decades that I want to exercise but it makes me extremely sick, and causes me exorbitant pain that lasts for days – I know you all know what I mean. I have told him verbally and in writing that I can't even do most activities of daily living or exertion of any kind without torturous consequences. He agrees that I'm disabled (thank God) but he sees me as someone who can still exercise.
A decade or so ago when I could exercise some it was still never enough for him. I've tried explaining to him that I used to really enjoy exercising and that I want to now but I can't and round and round we go. He is correct that exercise helps Fibro patients, but not if they also have ME of course, but he thinks I'm just trying to make up excuses.
Does anyone have any idea of what I could possibly say to him to make him understand that exercise is contraindicated for ME and could make me worse? I can't change doctors, I've tried and my other choices are way worse for me than he is.
I know this issue is universal for us and I already know the consequences of pushing and crashing but what can I say to him when he starts in on me about this so that maybe he can understand my plight? I'm so mad and frustrated about this situation I'm afraid I might just start yelling at him or worse.