@Sizzle - I don't recall seeing how old your daughter is - what interests and stimulates her may be different than what was important to me when I first got so sick. I was in my late 30s when things fell apart, ME/CFS-wise. In the span of a week, I lost the ability to walk up my driveway, do much at work (I had my own professional practice), ride my horses and do much more than sit around, weak and easily exhausted. Just eating a meal left me without sufficient energy to walk...a real kick in the butt for an active, super-motivated person.
The keys to GRADUALLY recovering from severe to moderate over several years, for me:
(1) complete de-stressing professionally. This meant selling my practice and retiring WAAAAY too early (
not that I had any choice...the more I tried to push through, the weaker I got.)
(2) rest, rest, rest, rest on a couch (
lots of book reading and listening to books-on-tape)
(3) excellent nutrition - just my own way of taking care of myself. I never ate much processed food, but I did eat a lot of nonessential baked goods that I weaned myself off.
(4) identifying and eliminating environmental triggers that made me sicker. For me, the most dangerous triggers were mold, mildew, scents & fragrances, smoke, cat litter, cedar, dust, dustmites and corn starch (
a common additive to many items). When I eliminated all of these things from my home, I learned that I felt sooooo much better. Far from my old self, but not as bad as I was.
(5) Rolfing - a form of deep muscle realignment that helped with my fibromyalgia and cervical neck issues
I further simplified my life by selling my home and horse farm. I purchased a very-low-maintenance RV so I could live, month by month, wherever the weather was dry and 60 - 70 degrees (
I found I was soooo much sicker if the weather was warmer or colder... my temperature tolerance was nil.) If I was feeling stronger, I'd drive (
never too much at once) to a new location. When I was feeling weak, I stayed put. De-accumulating a house and farm's worth of things to maintain took a huge weight off my shoulders so I could concentrate on healing, and with time and the warmer weather, I began to feel a little better. I even got a battery-operated bike so I could move around a bit more.
Over the years I've found several dozen dietary triggers that I needed to avoid in addition to all those environmental triggers - common things like apples, cauliflower, shrimp, cucumbers, all grains (
except oatmeal), grapes, all starches, and lots more. They all make my Sjogren's Syndrome, migraines and vertigo worse, so my life is better without them. Right now, I'm doing pretty good, diet-wise with a whole-foods diet (
lots of veggies, fruits and nuts, plus oatmeal, eggs & a little fish)
If you've read all this to here and compared it to some of the other things posted, you'll see that each of us has taken different paths to get better. That said, we all agree...absolute rest for a long time is vital. An attitude that allows each of us to appreciate the best part of any day helps, too (
just MHO). And once we regain a little strength, we need to be careful not to push ourselves out of our individual energy envelope or we'll lose it.