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I have just posted this entry on my blog about my journey through uni with CFS @ https://cfsuni.design.blog/
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I have just posted this entry on my blog about my journey through uni
I have just posted this entry on my blog about my journey through uni
Just read your Jan 22 post and wanted to say you're not alone having hurt feelings when friends forget. It's important to forgive them, but I also think it's important for a person to remember their commitments, even if it's just with a friend. If it happens, they should make sure they aren't too busy or stressed about anything else and maybe make some changes. I had a sweet friend who ended up being just too busy for me. I definitely have forgiven her but had to stop planning things with her because of this. And that's ok too.
So now I am simply thinking about how hard it was for me to make friends sometimes.
There was something about all that which I didn't fully understand, and I had moved from a home town where you simply know everyone because- you just do, its historic, you went to sixth grade together.
I moved to a big city and knew nobody and no one. I got job three days a week, and I'm younger than everyone and decide THEY are the coolest people ever and I am a country bumpkin nothing. I was totally FLAILING.
10 months later..I kinda started to figure it out. I asked this woman alot of questions one day as we are cutting cheese, I am interest in HER life, in HER issues, and GUESS WHAT- literally she changes and becomes this GREAT new Friend who LIKES ME (sally field).
I didn't understand I needed to- attend to the fire of friendship, put some fuel and kindling there. (and that is hard, with this, i udnerstand...so maybe its just a little fuel....).
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One of the best books ever written, remains: Dale Carnegie- how to Win Friends and Influence People.
Its timeless.