JoanDublin
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Your son.. his symptoms say probably a mitochrondrial disorder to me.. has bowel issue (severe constipation I think is more common in mito disorders then ME thou it does happen in us too) and then there also his hearing issue (very common in mito) . Thou ME seems to also be a mito issue, I think one can still see the signs that more mito stuff is going on then typical ME cases.
I know you say your son understands pacing but I personally from what he's done, I dont think he has fully understood it and the consequences of not doing it properly. Usually when one is pacing properly and feeling better, one knows to slowly increase activities over time, one takes in consideration how much one did the day before and how much one will be doing tomorrow, its not just about how much one feels one can do right now. With good pacing, the waters are always being tested one could say before diving in the deep end and just hoping for the best.
If one is feeling a bit better, one may go for a 10min walk (or only increase activity by several minutes, depending on how severe someones ME is) ... several days later it may be a 15min walk instead of 10mins if that 10 mins didnt make one sick etc. To suddenly go for a 40min walk and then play football on top when your son hasnt even been well enough to go to school this year, is a MASSIVE leap and not pacing. (I think most of us would of been shocked to read he went and suddenly just tried to do that.. understandable thou if he didnt know).
Doing something like this can someone MUCH WORST and they may not recover from it, a huge increase like that can send someone into a worst baseline with this illness. I really really hope your son hasnt done this! His best chance of recovery is probably in his younger years so its important he takes great care with activity increases so that he keep heading in the right direction for improvement and not mess it up. (most of us have experienced really messing up our improvement at some time or another).
Sudden improvements can be uncommon and should be really treasured like gold and at those times we need to be very careful not to blow our sudden turn into better health by overdoing it and loosing the improvement.
I know you have some money issues but its also probably essentail to get him to a ME specialist, otherwise he could end up having this illness for life and need care, going to specialist greatly probably increases his chances of maybe recovering. The sooner you do this, probably the better. If he gets sicker he may be too sick to fly him anywhere at all to get help so you need to do so now (many of us are too sick to fly).
I could only say bad things about his doctors from the things you've said, sounds like he hasnt had enough tests!!. and extensive illnesses should be considered as a whole.
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I also dont think his current bowel program sounds too good with having to take enemas, to me says he probably hasnt had things managed as well as they could be.
Both me and my daughter have had severe bowel issues to the point where we needed daily enemas but we both are off of these with good bowel treatment. (my bowel issues even prolapsed my bowel at one point cause I hardly had any peristalisis, my daughter has a spinal issue so had her bowel affected throu that). Good bowel specialists have both of us not needing enemas no more (we both had difficult cases which werent easy even for the specialists, the normal bowel laxatives did nothing at all for me at even large doses and in combos.
My daughter originally had to be hospitalised a lot for her bowel before this was sorted due to impactions etc, it took them ages to work out her treatment (she had to go onto 3 different things for her issue).
Both of us due to the treatment we had for this, we both have better functioning bowels and I dont even need to take anything or mine any more (I do think she's doing much for hers now to and may not now be havin to take meds). Im just telling you all this as there may be some room for improvement there. (I suspose that if your son does have mito disorder that treating that may help his bowel too?).
I wish you and your son the best, I really hope he starts to improve from that crash soon. (Ive had severe crashes last 3 weeks, often crashes that bad will leave me at a slightly lower baseline then before). Make sure he is taking it very easy, he should take care not to exert himself at all if he can still he starts improving from that crash, even if it means not doing basic things.
Thank you very much for your comprehensive reply. I agree with you about his 'real' understanding of pacing. At some level he knows what he needs to do but I think that day was a reflection of his frustration, combined with a need to be 'normal' with his friends. He knows he is paying the price so I hope we can move on from here having learned a hard lesson. He is normally very good at pacing himself especially after he met with Dr. Speight and the latter told him how important it was.
There is little or no understanding of the condition here in Ireland. There are no specialist centres and no one within our health system that I can find that has any specific interest or knowledge of the condition. There is lots of sympathy though so Im trying to build on that, educate myself and in turn educate his docs (without pissing them off). Its a balancing act.
My plan is to get as much testing carried out here as I can. I have to do that, on the one hand, strategically like you say. On the other hand though I owe it to him to advocate as strongly as possible - even if his docs think I'm a bit fanatic. Not saying they do, but it could be borderline!! I think you always run the risk of the wrath of the medics if you are pushing them hard.
I am trying to compile a list of tests that I believe should be carried out and Im trying to research that now. Some of them (not many) will already have been carried out and I will ask his GP for copies of those results so that I can build a file on them. Im hoping to get to Belgium to see KDM at some point and the more tests I can get done here, the less expensive it will be. I'm an amateur at all this and I get confused with the tests, results, treatments, etc etc so my head is mush right now. I've made an appointment with his doc for tomorrow so I need to have my ducks lined up before I go in.
I had wondered about a mitochondrial disorder too but is that not inherited? His illness was precipitated by him contracting EBV (misdiagnosed by his doctor by the way), viral pneumonia and chickenpox in May/June 2012 so because of that I was dismissing mito disorders? Maybe I'm wrong?
Im very interested in your recovery from your bowel issues. He has been left to manage his bowel issues by himself to be honest. He uses enemas and sometimes a Peristeen Anal Irrigation system. He has three monthly reviews in the hospital and as long as his impaction isnt building up they simply check him over and send him on his way until the next review (or the next critical time when he has to be admitted for bowel evacuation if necessary).. He has managed to keep himself out of hospital as much as possible. Last time he was in was March of this year and before that it was October of last year.