@lilwren, I cant help but think that, even though ME/CFS has been accepted as genuine illness by NIH and most health agencies across the globe, it has actually become more, not less, difficult to find proper medical treatment and knowledgeable doctors than it was 20 years ago. It baffles me that while illnesses like Multiple Sclerosis and Myasthenia Gravis are just as impossible to definitively diagnosis as ME/CFIDS, victims of those disorders are never dismissed as malingerers or lunatics. In fact, foundations for MS and MG research is well-funded, while ME/CFS slogs along, begging for every research dollar it can get.
My experience over the past year is that the highly-touted ME/CFIDS doctors (as well as, MAs, PAs, and NPs) are private pay only. Even a half hour telephone call with one of these “docs in demand” is $300 or more—paid in advance. I understand the point that some forum members have made that ME/CFIDS is a complex illness and, therefore, requires more of a doctor’s time and attention. But I was diagnosed more than twenty years ago by an infectious disease specialist who accepted my insurance and didn’t count down the minutes of my visits. I never heard him complain. I think that is called “dedication.” He even used his own time to hold semi annual CFS conferences to provide hope for ME/CFS patients and families by updating us on current research findings, as well as, explaining possible future treatment protocols.
ME/CFIDS destroys lives in ways that people with other chronic illnesses can’t imagine. Abuse is certainly a part of that ongoing destruction. We all have horror stories that are eerily similar. I can’t count on an abacus the number of times I’ve been humiliated by a doctor, dismissed as being mentally ill, ignored, disrespected, and laughed at. The worse part of the abuse for me is that over the years the abuse has usually taken place behind my back, but in front of my family—husband, children—who have been all too eager to agree with the man with the MD behind his name. As a result, I have given up looking to my family for emotional support during times when my symptoms are particularly debilitating—They have been convinced by doctors over the years that to believe my illness is real is to “enable” me. God forbid that we be comforted, given an encouraging word, or occasional helping hand. Better to ignore the possibility that our pain is real. Believe me, I’ve experienced enough “eyerolling” over the last thirty-plus years to last two lifetimes.
I am also wondering if abuse doesn’t include supplement companies. Supplements are now more expensive than prescription drugs. Every day a new cure in a bottle is introduced on the internet or social media. Put a new label on NAG, design a colorful label, run a few well-placed ads, and suddenly you can’t ship the stuff out fast enough! Currently, have a medicine cabinet filled with so many miracle cures that I can no longer keep track of which supplement is which—much less what each of them is for. Seriously, there are not enough hours in my day to take them all—even if I wanted to. I cringe when I think how much money I’ve wasted looking for that magic bullet. Interesting that so many supplement companies have jumped on the ME/CFS bandwagon, while pharmaceutical companies continue to pretend that the disorder doesn’t exist.
One more thing before I put my whine-fest to bed. You mention the swollen lymph nodes. They are real. We do not imagine them. Nor do we summon up low grade fevers and sore throats and the other very “measurable” symptoms we share. So how can ME/CFS be “all in our heads?” Since when did swollen lymph nodes indicate a “mental” illness? I’ve quit looking for answers.