I am absolutely devastated by this horrible news and have been crying since I read your post, Diwi. Pat was my friend off the board for about five years. While he was always very sick, there was a period that his health was better, and during that period, we used to e-mail each other almost every day. He told me about when his mother was killed and later he was extremely supportive of me when my mom died of colon cancer. In fact, he found the poem for me that I read at her funeral.
Pat was a true artist and he created these beautiful ATC cards (artist trading cards) and in 2017 he mailed me four cards that he had drawn for me plus an ATC card that his niece drew for me. I framed them immediately and they are still hanging on my wall today. We exchanged photos of ourselves and our families and even though Pat would constantly tell me that he was consumed by brain fog which he felt affected his empathy, I can attest through the years that we communicated that he was one of the most empathic people that I have ever known.
He loved quotes and when I was going through my divorce (or other health-related or life issues), he used to e-mail me quotes that pertained to whatever I was dealing with. He encouraged me to start a journal to collect quotes and I started one a few years ago because of him. Back in 2017, he told me that some day if he got better, he would like to meet me half-way between where we each lived (which would have been Seattle or Vancouver area).
My health greatly improved starting in 2018 while his declined but I always prayed for him and in my mind, I envisioned that in the future, we would still meet in person some day. My greatest regret is that I did not create an ATC card to send back to him. I had planned to do it but I was not as skilled artistically as he was and I felt that anything that I created would not be very good. I truly regret this now.
Pat had been on my mind for the last week and I thought about e-mailing him but I knew that he was taking a break from PR (and we had not e-mailed in quite a while). So I talked myself out of it because I thought that it might be disturbing him. I really regret this, too, and wish that I could go back in time.
If his sister, brother-in-law, niece or nephew are reading this, I want you to know from the years that Pat and I were in close communication, that he loved you all very much. He spoke very highly of all of you and how much you meant to him and what amazing care you took to make sure that he had what he needed.
I cannot believe that I am typing this right now and my heart is truly broken. Pat, may you rest in peace, you were a great friend and I will miss you very much. Your memory is a blessing to me and to everyone whose lives you touched