How solve practical problem when no help and limited physical resources?

[vision blue]

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[Zebra]

So how do i solve this? it's a race against time. Anyone know how i can get help to find what I need? anyplace nationwide i can p

Hi, @vision blue,

I am sorry you are suffering so greatly.

I would like to see this community rally around you with practical support, but in order to do that effectively, we may need more information.

Would you be willing to tell us:

What country you live in?
What part of that country you live in?
And, if relevant, the nearest metropolitan area?

My intention is that those who live (or have lived) in your region may have ideas that will directly assist you.

If you'd be willing to share where you live, maybe we can get your post more attention.

Hang in there! I hope help is forthcoming from the Phoenix Risers!

 

[Pearshaped]

I cant give you advice where to move but i guess before considering to move out could it help to inform the owner of the building about neighbour?

or send him some delicious chocolate with a note where you ask him to be less noisy and that it would help you tremendously.

how about getting ear-phones (i'm speaking of those ppl.working on airports are wearing)

You could move to the very countryside,but then you are probably too far away from medical help,shops and stuff.

 

[vision blue]

@Zebra yuve given me a tiny bit of hope. will describe some stuff when a bit fresher. thanks much. hopefully soon as only intervening medical urgencies take priority

@Pearshaped Have tried all the normal person troulbe shooting things on your list and more (flower in and cookies instead of choccolates) if i get energy i'll type them all in....

 

[vision blue]

@and... do you think if i also wrote out a list of things i need in a place, - could be anywhere - phoenix risers might read and say, hey, that sounds like my town? At this point, I would actually move somwhere sight unseen if it meets the many criteria on the list.

 

[Zebra]

@vision blue

This is an international forum, so I think you might want to narrow it down to a country, unless you are happy to move abroad. ;-)

I read once that there is a VERY small, supportive community of chronically ill people on the island of Kauai, I think. You may wish to Google that when you feel up to it.

 

[vision blue]

Ok, i've written two lists

 

[YippeeKi YOW !!]

@vision blue

so how should i do this?

The most effective way would be to open a thread with a descriptive title, like:

Please help, need to find quiet, stress-free new home, anywhere in the US is fine, going nuts from noise where I am .....​

 

[Zebra]

Hi, @vision blue,

I have printed out and read the two documents you sent. I have 3 suggestions for you to consider or reject. ;-)

1. You mention you are currently looking at two counties in PA. Could you look for a really unflappable realtor, type up a bulleted list of "must haves" and "like to haves," and turn them loose in those two counties? Have them do the leg work for you?

2. If you decide to look for help here on PR, I agree with @YippeeKi YOW !! that you need to start a new thread with a descriptive, pointed, title.

Maybe an edited version of what YippeeKi YOW suggested: "Please help me find quiet housing anywhere in U.S." (something like that)

3. I hope you'll take this last suggestion in stride. I spent 17 years in all forms of book, magazine, and online publishing, so it is with deep respect to you, the author, that I suggest you whittle these documents down dramatically if you want folks on this forum to actually read and reply.

You should also cut and paste contents from these documents into the actual post, because folks may not have the energy to open and read an attachment. Or their device may not support the documents.

If I were your editor I would suggest breaking your wish list into just 5 bullet points. Focus on the most important ones. Perhaps the following:

1. Quiet (with your description of what this means to you, from House Wish List doc)

2. Non-Toxic (your description from House Wish List doc, plus you could add the part about being fine with unrenovated, broken down, etc. here)

3. Location (your description)

4. Ideal Setting (your description)

5. Necessary Conveniences (list the 5 conveniences from House Wish List doc)

Phew! I've been thinking about this all weekend and was waiting for a window of better cognitive function to write you.

I hope you find this helpful, and I look forward to seeing how this unfolds!

 

[gbells]

I have moderate SEIDs and low level noise sensitivity and am on Section 8 US housing assistance and SSD. Living in a moderate income apartment complex with kids I use:

• White noise generators. I have one in the living room (Homedics) and one in the bedroom (Marpac).
• Ear plugs for when I need to sleep during the day and there is noise around.
• Noise cancelling headphones. You can get a pair of Sony WH-1000xm2 used on ebay for about $110.

As for light you'll need the heavy tinted sunglasses that only let 1% of light penetrate for outdoors. Get light blockers for the shades.

 

[vision blue]

@Zebra and others
Thanks; but already have a real estate agent. They do what all real estate agents do these days- they use the web with their database being only marginally better than zillow and the like. They actually make things worse since theyll send 30 lsitings at a time that met the criteria they are used to searching for, like price, but don't do the extra work (you can't search for "low traffic area" and "1.5 miles from highway" and "non-updated" ) and most, if not all the listings , are completely useless. Would be faster to do it w/o their lists. So yes, of course i've thought of a real estate agent.

(There are articles on real estate agents that adivce they should specialize in disabliity since alot of disabled folk look for housing and have special needs- but the articles aren't about real estate agents that do, just suggesting its a niche market and there should be more. )

I already had just a 5 bullet point list - as you saw on one of my list it contaned all the things you extracted. So basically i think you are suggesting to just use my first 5 and then not bother with the others so i can paste it in a message rather than an attachment. Its not suffieinct as i discovered by the way'; e.g. it apepars the location has to come first.

i' might do it without the attachements at some point , but i'm guessing not likely to work. i did a post with a new title; and although the longer lists were attached i also did summarize what i'm looking for in location within the text. 100 reads but no replies. I sdon't believe for a moment the attachements are in an unreadable format. but yes, people are sick on this list and trying to find things to help themsleves too so only have limited time to what they can do and clicking can be too hard. But so far, no bites from just the summary in the text itself.

Thanks for trying to help. I don't think this is the right place for it. I need help, not advice. If you want to edit the "here's the location wish list" and post for me in a way that you think would do better than i did, please feel free. It's never the idea part that i lack in. Like most on this list, i'm resourceful and intellegient, so its not that i haven't thought of things- that's not the constraint. . (I still can't get over someone suggested I get some ear plugs for noise. did they really think i ddin't think of and try that as well as 3 fans of different loudnesses and pitch, noise cancelling headphones, ear muffs used on shooting ranges, noise machine, 3 new speakers placed around the room, and samples of noise inuslating material to see if that was feasable, spoken nicely to neighbpor, left nnice note for neighbor, brought neighbor cookies and a flower, asked management to let me know when theres constructin noiise - i've asked maybe 8 times now, talk to managagmetn at least 3 times a week concerning noise troubleshooting ideas, different apartments, neighbors etc . ). But despite the fact i generate ideas just fine on my own, i just don't, as one person, one impaired person, ahve the physcial resources necessary to hunt as needed. Those are the constraints. I like crowd sourcing - it really might just take a dozen people saying i love my town and its quiet w/o too many days of sunshine., but am guessing that just won't happen here on this forum. So far don't know of others.

Edit : make that 2 people who suggested earplugs and the like- i hadn't seen that post when i wrote the above.

 

[Zebra]

@vision blue

Ouch. :-(

Good luck with your search. I do hope that you will eventually find a near-perfect place to live.