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PisForPerseverance

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I'm acknowledging the grief and empathizing, and along with that, just to reflect, you are a kind thoughtful person and I think that a partner and close friends, at least definitely close friends but I hope partner too, might be in your future. The children part... Gosh I don't know what comforting words I could say for that. That eats me up inside thinking that may not happen for me. I see myself adopting eventually if I can't have kids myself but... If that is something you wish for, then there might be other ways to have meaningful relationships with kids, when you hopefully get a place where being more social is possible (I think you will). I see you having deeper relationships and joy in your life in the future, in maybe unexpected ways. It's all the therapy work you've done/will do too that makes me think that. And the fact that you have a deep intention for it now. I hope anyway. For both of us. All of us. I'm always here to talk in our pm conversation.
 

Rufous McKinney

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We learn. And then we forget, and learn it all again. Yours, Lenora

So true!

I had my daughter with her lovely long arms -hanging out of the open window, me holding onto her- trying to clean the outside Upstairs. And now those windows aren't clean any longer!

I now at least have names of a good service who will come here and clean- we have to get vaccinated first.
 

Rufous McKinney

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That eats me up inside thinking that may not happen for me. I see myself adopting eventually if I can't have kids myself but... If that is something you wish for, then there might be other ways to have meaningful relationships with kids, when you hopefully get a place where being more social is possible (I think you will).

there is so much need in the world, so many waiting to be loved, or noticed, or a book read to.

It appalls me this illness leaves me so unable to be helpful in the world. But I did- do a lot in the world at some point so at least that did occur- I did try.