I would say DON'T make the decision to NOT have kids based on fear. I am sick, have done quite a bit of diff treatments over the years, (antibiotics, vitamins, ldn as you mentioned, etc)...doing a little better but it's not like I'm "cured" and I don't know if I ever will be. Haven't had kids yet, but will be trying soon. I have decided to not let FEAR control the decision, if there are no concrete facts.
There will always be studies that can point to this or that, but you have to take the study as one study, and not draw absolute *conclusions* beyond the associations/correlations made in the study (studies can point to correlations but they don't always PROVE things, and they may later be upheld or disproven with further scientific study...basically "correlation doesn't equal causation"....you can proven things are correlated but not that one causes the other), and again, my suggestion is to not let FEAR nudge you in one direction or the other. I have realized that the worst thing I could do is look back and realize I made a decision based on fear and not on reality. In other words, decide based on what you know, not what you fear.
The first response you got, seems to elicit a feeling of guilt (not pointing fingers at the poster though, and not saying that is what they intended, just using it as an example of the emotions that come from reading a post like that, then those emotions dominate the conversation, as opposed to facts and "knowns.") And I have decided not to let fear-of-future-guilt dominate too much of my decision, but then again, I tend to dwell on guilt, so I have to moderate it. If you don't feel guilt easily, maybe listen to it, but for me, it is not an accurate gauge of what I should do or not do. In general, I am avoiding guilt in the same way as fear, but that is a personal decision. I just don't see them as good driving forces for major life decisions, at least I have noticed that for my life. I don't do/not do things because I feel guilty, and I don't do or not do things because of fear, at least not if that is the ONLY reason.
So I wish you the best of luck. From what I gather, some infections can be passed mother-to-child, while some can't. There is an acronym TORCH which kind of sums it all up:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/TORCH_complex
Basically, I have decided all this on my own, so not sure how it's gonna go (no doctor instructed me to do all this specifically): get tested for mycoplasma, herpes viruses (including cytomegalovirus), lyme and babesia and bartonella, and possibly a few other infections, now, since I want to conceive soon. I have tested positive for many of those in the past, but have done a lot of treatment. Then I will treat based on the results before pregnancy. If I can't get things to then go negative, I'll consider treatment with something low-dose during pregnancy, if it's pregnancy safe, but I am kind of also considering not worrying about it. I already know my babesia is positive a lot, but transmission during pregnancy has only been documented a few times, vs many cases that have probably existed, and the drugs are so harsh, that I am not worrying about it.
Then I'll get my folate tested, and my D3, my B12, etc etc and make sure those levels are good. So far they are. I had a bad reaction to a DPT vaccine, so I am considering not vaccinating my kids, and I won't get any more, for sure.
Do you happen to know if LDN is safe during pregnancy? I have considered going back on it, at least before preg, but I dunno how I feel about it.
Also look into sleep disordered breathing.....it can lead to a lot of fatigue, and apneas only get worse during pregnancy as you gain weight. I am currently on CPAP, but I think I"m gonna try to switch to a dental device as treatment for apnea before preg, because I can't stand the cpap.
I am noticing what foods bother me, and cutting them out. Really cleaning up my diet. I am trying to exercise as much as possible, and will continue to do so while pregnant. Exercise is great, in my mind.
Anyways...hope that helps. Good luck!