Andrew
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Dang! There are some great analogies and explanations posted by our patient community.
We should all remember that AIDS patients didn't get anywhere until they brought massive public attention to their own plight through some the ACT UP campaign. ACTing UP involved some really interesting acts of civil disobedience. It got people paying attention, especially the news media. It eventually embarrassed and humiliated the government and research communities into doing something about AIDS. People were rude, and broke the law, and called people murderers, and so forth. The book "AIDS DEMOGRAPHICS" is a wonderful photo essay on the topic, if anybody cares.
So I actually do disagree that Alan Dove is worth treating with respect, trying to win him over, or anything of the kind. He's unethical.
He's laughing at us right now. To our faces. I don't see it as a win.
SOME QUOTES ON VERBAL ABUSE
Verbal abuse often includes blaming, brainwashing, and intimidation. Hidden aggression is a part of verbal abuse, as well. Verbal abuse is extremely manipulative, as insults are often disguised as caring comments. Verbal abuse can be overt or covert, but it is always about controlling and manipulating the victim.
Often, verbally abusive comments are offered as jokes. When the target of the joke is hurt or insulted, the verbal abuser laughs it off and says that the victim is overly sensitive. However, the intent of the verbal abuser is to cause this hurt.
In verbally abusive arguments, real conflicts are not the issue and problems are not resolved. The abuse becomes the issue, and often the victim is told that everything is always his or her fault.
Often, verbal abusers tell their victims what to think and how to feel. They typically refuse to see or understand the victims point of view. In fact, they often object, in a violently verbal way, to the victims opinions and desires. Verbal abusers often deny reality and attempt to keep their victims confused by constantly changing or distorting the issue.
Verbal abuse can be described as stealthy; it leaves wounds that are not visible to the naked eye. As it harms the mind and spirit, it can be more difficult to recognize than physical abuse. Also, its victims become so torn down by it that they are often unable to notice the abuse themselves.
Eventually, the verbal abuse victim becomes so worn down by the abuse that he or she becomes unable to put up a defense against it. Often, the victim begins to try to change or placate the abuser, thinking that such change will improve the relationship. Sadly, verbal abusers typically do not change on their own. For real change to occur, professional psychiatric help is usually required
I don't see the point in an argument ad hominem. Or in claiming that his wife's profession is a "conflict of interest" that he should have "disclosed" before being allowed to appear on TWiV. Huh??
A professional journalist is absolutely required to make such a disclosure. Journalistiic ethics require it. He responded that if I were a regular follower of TWIV, of course I would know his wife has a specialty in psychosomatic medicine. He's quite wrong in stating any such previous disclosure was adequate. I'm not a regular follower of TWIV .
I think if we are really interested in the truth about our disease, we should rebut arguments, not attack people. Is the argument good? Is the science sound?
I agree that some of his comments on his blog were condescending and made him sound like an asshat. That situation isn't improved by sinking to that level, or lower. I know it's a hell of a bore to have to explain over and over again, rationally and reasonably, that the "psychosocial" theory of how CFS is caused has done terrible harm to the patient community for decades. We think it's obvious because we're so well-versed in it - but the ignorance out there is vast. Get ready, we're going to have to do a LOT more of that kind of explaining once XMRV blows up in the popular press.
There probably is a place for anger and outrage and trouble-making in getting the recognition we need for our disease, but I don't think making snarky comments on people's blogs or sending them hate e-mail is a particularly effective way to harness our anger. What good does it do?
Alan Dove is writing propaganda. He's not just an ignorant blow-hard; he's propagating hate and attacking CFS patients and researchers in a particularly insidious, underhanded manner. He's doing it deliberately, or he wouldn't have forgotten to mention his conflict of interest with respect to the topic of CFS. I am calling him out on it, and letting him reap a little of what he's sowing. We actually don't need any more of his "help."
I also don't see how exposing someone's complete lack of professional ethics can be categorized as snark. Snark is not productive of anything, and I actually disagree that Alan Dove is really laughing about the disclosure of a conflict of interest issue. It's a serious matter. Yes, of course he's saying we're crazy, but the fact is that he already strongly indicated that opinion in his blog.
Lol Levi, i like your kind of humour.By totally antagonizing and polarizing scientific journalists like Dr. Dove, CFS patients are helping themselves in the very long run. If it becomes a common perception in the general scientific community that research or coverage of CFS is likely to unleash a cyclonic storm of negative reactions from patients, then people in the scientific community will simply avoid dealing with the disease and those patients that have it.
So they will dismiss it and go on to other less demanding types of work, and CFS will stay under-funded and below the scientific radar. Science will wash its hands and allow the field to be dominated by pseudo-scientific quacks and exploitative individuals who despise CFS patients and mock them in their suffering.
This scientific void will continue along as other fields of science progress in parallel in the mainstream. Maybe for decades. Finally, someone with a bit of wealth or importance or a close family member will get the illness. Finding no help from the medico-scientific community, they will, in their righteous outrage, simply go out and fund their very own private institution to solve things and hire private scientists and researchers. The items missed by the mainstream scientific community during those intervening decades will be so abundant and obvious that progress will be rapid and groundbreaking. They may even find a microbe responsible, and devise a diagnostic test that detects it.
At least he's not forgetting us. And how much do you want to bet that the next time he says anything about chronic fatigue syndrome he will be more precise? More informed? Less obtuse? There were some excellent responses posted in reply to his drivel of a blog. He chose to have a snit instead of engaging around the real concerns expressed.
Here is something I posted on another thread last week:
I hope you're not suggesting that we need to behave ourselves in order to be worthy of research and treatment. That would be kind of . . . discriminatory? I'm tired of having it insinuated that we the patients are the reason we don't get appropriate care. Maybe it's our personalities: We're too introverted! We're too driven! We're malingerers who're just wanting a free ride! We speak up too much! We get mad that all these political games are being played at our expense! We complain! We write impassioned letters! We're giving THEM a reason not to help US! It's OUR fault they think we're CRAZY!
I think we've been showing a HEALTHY response to very inappropriate treatment. I, for one, will not sit down and shut up especially if that is what THEY want.
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There is definitely validity to this kind of approach. But it's probably more effective when executed as a campaign with clear mission and objective- like ACT-Up. Just defensively lashing out makes you look crazy in some people's eyes. Maybe you don't care (you, collectively- not to kdeneris, specifically). But that's one problem the AIDS folks didn't have. I don't think anyone was questioning whether AIDS was a psychological condition.
We are already being branded as tempermental loose cannons- so firing away in anger, can be counteractive. I don't think researchers are running away saying "Wow- look how pissed they are. We need to fix this quick!" More likely, they're just running away. And thinking, "Look how restless the nut-bags are today."
I think keeping this stuff less personal is better. Unless, there is a well thought out strategy that involves civil disobedience with a clear objective- then fire away as heavy as possible.
Some of those comments made him look better than he needed to look, and that did not help us.
He's laughing at us right now. To our faces. I don't see it as a win.
At least he's not forgetting us. And how much do you want to bet that the next time he says anything about chronic fatigue syndrome he will be more precise? More informed? Less obtuse? There were some excellent responses posted in reply to his drivel of a blog. He chose to have a snit instead of engaging around the real concerns expressed. ]
At least he's not forgetting us. And how much do you want to bet that the next time he says anything about chronic fatigue syndrome he will be more precise? More informed? Less obtuse? There were some excellent responses posted in reply to his drivel of a blog. He chose to have a snit instead of engaging around the real concerns expressed.
Again, I think it's human nature. I do not - for one second - believe that we should be silent, be nice, or lay down and die. I do believe that we need to be strategic, organized, tactical and persuasive.
I do believe that we need to be strategic, organized, tactical and persuasive.
So, after all these years, why do the Alan Dove's of the world still think they can get away with such condescending, belittling comments? Where IS the strategic, organized, tactical and persuasive responses to blogs like his? Why is it that we patients still feel we have to defend ourselves against these types of attacks? Might it be because there is no "official" organization taking them to task?
I don't really get the point of trying to adjust the communication from the patients when these kinds of blogs are going unchallenged. I would love to hear the CFIDS Association respond quickly and decisively each time such misinformation and yes, abuse, is being perpetuated. Where is the outrage from our patient organization?
we need to "box clever"
I don't know if you're making fun or notI may be crazy but :tear::tear: I think we can get Alan to listen. I think if we only provide the facts of the situation he will get it.
So, after all these years, why do the Alan Dove's of the world still think they can get away with such condescending, belittling comments? Where IS the strategic, organized, tactical and persuasive responses to blogs like his? Why is it that we patients still feel we have to defend ourselves against these types of attacks? Might it be because there is no "official" organization taking them to task?
I don't really get the point of trying to adjust the communication from the patients when these kinds of blogs are going unchallenged. I would love to hear the CFIDS Association respond quickly and decisively each time such misinformation and yes, abuse, is being perpetuated. Where is the outrage from our patient organization? I realize that these things take time but, jspotila, you've posted several times speaking to patients and suggesting that we tone it down. I suggest that we would be better served if you direct your comments to Mr. Dove and others who think that it's okay to be so cavalier about a group of patients who have suffered far too long.
There, I said it.
Do I need to run and hide?