@jeff_w-I agree. I am actually writing her a letter right now. Before I checked PR. You are right on all points and yes, I have allowed myself to be manipulated.
This friendship is based on many years of illness and that is what it is...meaning, mine.
When I moved into this apartment, she gave me a gorgeous dining room table made of barn wood that she didn't want. An Oreck vacuum, a Kitchenaid mixer, oriental rugs, so many things. She and her husband went out of their way at the time to help me move in. They also gave me a huge Austin air purifier. At the time, they seemed like amazing people. This was 11 years ago.
I don't have family members who do stuff like that. My entire family did nothing. So, when someone is nice to me, I try to hang onto them. But, it was soon after that this all began, but I was so much better then. She also was the one who introduced me to making jewelry. My business and success for me followed soon after.
I felt indebted. This person changed my life and gave me insight into a job...a job that I was actually making money from and I had never made money before because of this condition. I was able to work at home and it was a controlled, work when you can situation. I was able to afford things I couldn't previously and take trips out of the country due to this job. It was like a miracle for me. She designs jewelry on the side (she works another job.)
So, there is the connection.
But, over the past few years, things have become weird and strained and uncomfortable. It's been a strange thing lately and for years actually because I have become more uncomfortable and we actually weren't seeing each other that much. Like twice a year, so it was tolerable.
Her marriage, which is ever so effed up and her obsession with botox, plastic surgery and Juvaderm fillers made me ill...meaning, I thought it was gross. She is 62 trying to look so young. She looks good, but one time her lips were like like a carp's...lol.... I even told her, "What are you doing? You look weird." I couldn't even help it and she didn't like it, but I didn't care. I find her to be overly vain and fixated on her appearance.
She is so against medicine, but has had a nose job, breast job, chin tuck, you name it...doesn't believe in medicine but will go under the knife without hesitation. EFFED UP.
Then, her husband hit on me, she found out, I told her what had happened and she became glued to me because she felt that I was the only friend who had ever been honest with her, came out with what he was doing and she suddenly saw me as her best friend. Some kind of weird transference. Suddenly she can't help me, fix me...enough. But, up until this point, she never took this much interest in my life....thank God.
And now this creepy thing she has going on needs to stop.