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Do you look markedly younger than your age?

Discussion in 'General Symptoms' started by fresh_eyes, Jan 10, 2010.

  1. BEG

    BEG Senior Member

    Southeast US
    Martlet. You are too hysterical! I'm Scots/Irish and Italian. I get mad and then get even, or so I've been told.

    It's funny that I am often mistaken as the mother of my 8 year old granddaughter, and she tells me how old I look. And she means OLD.

    Victoria, where did you find those emoticons?
  2. Victoria

    Victoria Senior Member

    Melbourne, Australia
    Brown-eyed Girl,
    the emoticoms are under the "go advanced" reply mode box.
    There are the old emoticoms as well as the new yellow emoticoms - a good selection to help your writing along.
    Have a good day............
  3. Victoria

    Victoria Senior Member

    Melbourne, Australia
    As to aging.............

    1. Good genes help
    2. Plenty of fresh filtered water daily to keep the skin hydrated.
    3. Lots of fresh vegies & fruit (a variety of foods that are high in anti-oxidants also)
    4. Minimal coffee/tea or other caffiene based drinks that dehydrate
    5. Keep out of the direct sun (especially here in Australia where there is a big hole in the ozone layer)
    6. A brisk walk every day gets plenty of oxygen into the cells
    7. Fish oil capsules for smooth velvety skin (which I have) vitamin E capsules for your heart & skin.
    8. Bring lots of joy & laughter into your life
    9. Try to be optimistic (hard when you've got a chronic illness).
    10. Spend time with happy positive people & good supportive friends & family (this one is also hard to do when you're chronically ill).
    11. Try to keep away from heavy drugs that place stress on your liver & kidneys.
    12. Avoid stress (this is even harder to achieve).

    And so on.........(otherwise you'll end up like a wrinkled prune).
  4. Sunday

    Sunday Senior Member

    Victoria, how lovely to have pictures of you at last. I was relieved to hear that you have been visiting the dentist whilst you have insurance from work; I certainly think those two front teeth need more work. But your hair is lovely, very few signs of grey. And this picture has caught a very engaging expression. :Retro wink:

    I've got another theory about CFS/ME and aging. Freddd, over at the b12 thread, had/has had it for 26 years. When b12 started pulling him out, he noticed that his male-pattern baldness - which had frozen in place when he went under with the severe form of illness - started up again; he started losing hair.

    So maybe hormonal weirdness can work in our favor; maybe we're Sleeping Beauties (feel better, Dr. Yes?) In my own case, I'm one of those people who looked older when I was young, and now look younger when I'm old. Not just my opinion; I'm 53, and one of my neighbors finally asked me my age because she thought I looked as if I were in my early forties but obviously some of my info militates against this. She's 35, so it's not a case of someone calling me a young thing. Also, my day was made a year ago when volunteers, looking to pass out info on mammograms, asked me if I was over 40! Well, that could have been a case of needing glasses (they weren't young things), but I must say it made my day.

    I think a lot of my skin preservation can be attributed to good bones and wearing hats and sunscreen devotedly since my late 20s, when I got heat exhaustion. And, truthfully, if you look closely, the skin on my hands and neck would give you a true indication of age, I think. I think I would not get the highest score on your list of items, Victoria, but definitely fish oil works!
  5. liverock

    liverock Senior Member

    Fish oil essential if you want to keep your telemores from shortening.:D
  6. Navid

    Navid Senior Member

    i'd rather feel younger!!!!!!

    that is sooooooo awesome!!!! love it.

    i am always thought to be much younger by people around my age and older....but people in their twenties know what a 20 something should look like and usually guess my age on the backside of 40 correctly.

    funny story: the other day i went to our city rec center to sign my kid up for a class...i had on a northface down jkt, messenger cap and dressed like a younger person...the man surprised-like said to me "honey why aren't you in school"...he thought i was a high schooler...hysterical...then i took off my hat and he saw my graying hair and said well you still look great for your age : )

    ladies in our family live into their hundreds, my maternal grampy lived til 85...but he broke his hip while working in his woodshop...trying to do things he shouldn't have been doing at his age...once in the hospital he went down fast...if that didnt happen he probably wouldv'e lived a good 10 more on my dad's side go dad 62, his dad-my grandpa 62....

    so it's a toss-up.
  7. Senior Member

    Very interesting! I have always been told I look very young. I'm 33, most people say I look around 21-25. When I was at the salon getting my hair done, someone asked if I was getting ready for prom. LOL :) My patients always assume I'm a nursing student, and ask when I'll graduate. They about fall over when I tell them I have a teenager myself!
  8. starryeyes

    starryeyes Senior Member

    Bay Area, California
    Nice pic, Victoria. Don't go too hard on your dentist. I'm sure he's doing the best he can. And you look so sweet! Awwww...

    :tear::tear::tear: You are hilarious Dr. Yes!
  9. jace

    jace Off the fence

    Interesting. I was last asked if I wanted child's ticket (under 14) on a bus when I was 22. Now, nearly 60, I sure feel my age (darn the ME/CFS) and maybe I look it too. My youngest regularly gets asked for ID to prove she is over 18, she's 24 and a mother of two. I have a nephew who looks to be in his early twenties, who is 37 now. We have joked for years about a youth gene.
  10. kat0465

    kat0465 Senior Member

    I can relate George, for most of all the sick 20 years, i looked great, my weight was good, i even got carded going to buy liquor or when i went anywhere. then WHAMO, at about 41 everything changed. especially my looks & 44 now, am 60 lbs overweight,Look sick now:( and never ever get carded anymore :( like you said...It was a nice run!!
  11. bakercape

    bakercape Senior Member

    Cape Cod. Mass
    Could it be that none of us smoke or drink much or at all. We all probably supplement with vitamins. We also as a group probably don't get much sun. These factors could make us look younger.
  12. jace

    jace Off the fence

    bakercape, that theory didn't work for me pre ME he he Though I used to say I moved too fast for the sunbeams to catch me, after a year or three in the mediterranean I did get a tan. Now I'm so pure and I look my age.
  13. bee33


    Interesting that this is common to so many people here. I looked young for my age for a long time (have had CFS for 25 yrs), but not anymore. I am 46 and have gray hair and an ashen look and dark circles, so if anything I look older. I have never worn make up.

    But throughout my 30s people thought I was in my 20s. When I was 35 even an 18 yr old friend thought I was no older than 29. I did get carded at a liquor store recently, when I was wearing a wool cap (the clerk thought I was a guy though :D ).
  14. Misfit Toy

    Misfit Toy Senior Member

    I look a lot younger. I hear it all the time. I am 39 and look like I am 30. I am so sick so to me it makes no sense. My skin looks great thanks to makeup. But, I have dark circles under my eyes that can't be seen either. Thanks to makeup!
  15. L'engle

    L'engle moogle

    I agree with the no drinking, smoking, or eating junk food theory. I'm also very sensitive to light and sun so I always protect my skin. Overall it makes for a very low impact lifestyle. I don't seem to have any other health problems besides whatever this thing we have is. When I see people my own age who are still healthy enough to party I'm shocked by how ill they tend to look. My boyfriend also looks way healthier than the other people around here who are his age. I think before I got sick, when I was still a teenager, I was even more interested in keeping active and experiencing life than many of the other people I knew. When I was a kid I had tons of energy, was never sick and used to leap around at light speed. When I first started getting more tired around age 19, I assumed my personality was somehow changing and preventing me from having energy, even though my mind very much wanted to continue a busy life. ("Maybe it's because you're an introvert, or creative", etc...( despite that the other introverts could work all day and the other creative people could party till morning)) I gave up on partying around then anyway, simply because it was boring and felt unclean. So maybe I would look this healthy even if I was healthy... hmmm, does that make sense?

    With exercise intolerance, too I get really focused on being able to exercise again as the most desirable thing in life. Eating junk food, drinking or doing sedentary group social activities just don't have much charm anymore. I would love to go with a best friend or small group and do a really good hiking trip... no alcohol, no noise, just nature and good friends. So I guess we tend to value our health more highly than people who take it for granted.
  16. rebecca1995

    rebecca1995 Apple, anyone?

    Northeastern US
    I look younger than my age, too. I credit years of enforced sun avoidance.

    But if no one sees me, does it really count? You know, "If a tree falls in the woods and no one hears it..." :D
  17. Forbin

    Forbin Senior Member

    I became ill at age 22.

    When I was 42, I went to see an ENT for the first time for tinnitus. He walked into the room and stopped in his tracks. He checked my chart and asked my name to make sure that I was the right patient. Then he asked if I was really 42. When I said yes, he was kind of shocked and said, "Well, you are a very young man." He repeated that a couple of other times.

    Around the same time I saw an ophthalmologist. After examining my eyes he seemed a bit surprised and said that my retinas were like those of a teenager.
  18. serenity

    serenity Senior Member

    i'm not sure if i do or not. i'm 42. some say i do, but i'm short & i avoid the sun. i quit smoking & drinking & tanning long ago.
    i'm eating better these days & i've always been fairly thin, but i dunno if i look young or not? many of my friends do, so it's hard to say.
  19. Jerry S

    Jerry S Senior Member

    I wonder about those trees, too, Rebecca. I really don't know how I look to other people anymore - it's been so long since I've seen anyone face to face.

    The neighbors I pass in the lobby don't recoil in horror. I suppose that's a good sign. :worried:
  20. HopingSince88

    HopingSince88 Senior Member

    I am 57 and have one wee line on my forehead and a couple of tiny crinkles at the edges of my eyes. Other than that my skin is flawless. If it were not for the dark circles under my eyes, (and my lack of energy) I could start a new life as a Cougar. (just kidding). ;)

    My dentist tells me that my teeth and gums belong to a 30 year old.

    As late as 40 years of age I was being carded in restaurants.

    For those of you that missed it on another thread, you may want to look at the wiki on Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome:

    I fit all the requirements. Maybe the genetics that creates EDS makes us more susceptible to XMRV getting triggered? There are a lot more healthy people with XMRV than there are sick ones. Why us?

    But while we are waiting for answers, I don't mind being mistaken for a younger woman. :rolleyes:

    And if we find a fix for this thing, I will use it to my advantage! :D

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