Thanks to all. I had the sense that the doctor did not recognize ME/CFS as a real disease, and have asked him several times for an honest answer, but only got vague responses.
I didnt look at the link but I can say from what you posted there, that this doctor IS NOT a suitable one for a ME/CFS patient. You will know when you've find a good doctor for this as that dr will be listening to you and will be completely honest and open about how she/he feels about this illness when you ask questions and will not leave you still wondering about their views.
Ive had ME long term and in this time Ive dealt with countless drs (probably at least 50) and can say all the doctors like how you described do not work out and actually have at times severely complicated things for me (eg trying behind my back to get me diagnosed instead with psych illnesses I dont even have.
I had dr which was like you described who though he lead me on thinking he would help, he was just vague at my questions.. in reality he was trying to get me diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder!!! even after he sent me to several psychs and they said no.. behind my back he was still trying to do this.
He even went as far as when I finally found a ME/CFS specialist.. he was ignoring the advice being given to him by this experienced ME/CFS specialist (who was actually also a researcher in the field) about how to help me and not even telling me that that the other was contacting him regularly over me. So I ended up being left thinking the specialist wasnt helping me either when in fact he was advising my primary doctor in whats to help me and thinking he was then working with me. It turned out that this "vague dr" did not believe i the existance of ME at all, and I wasted a whole 18mths-2 years on seeing him and having him manage me.
I can also say that it is near impossible for even a very knowable ME patient to retain a dr in his thinking of the illness if he isnt even open about his thoughts!!! These doctors tend to lead patients on but do not help.
The best way to find a knowledgable dr on ME/CFS is to find other patients in your state and ask them who they are seeing. Even if the dr is quite far from you to the point you couldnt get there even for just 1-2 appointments (that can be great for getting a heap of testing done which hasnt yet been done), you may be able to contact him/her and ask the dr who is helping ME/CFS patients who he can recommend closer to you.
So seek out other ME/CFS patients and seek out any ME/CFS support groups in your area and ask those too (they often hold dr recommendation lists.
The other thing with finding a suitable dr, if there isnt a knowledable one, it will probably mean you will have to train one to help you with things. It can be far easier to find this kind of dr. Ive found suitable drs for me to teach them.. are ones which when I ask them what they think about ME/CFS they tend to immediately tell me its something triggered by a virus and will go on and right away tell me they do not know much about it. (they dont try to hide their lack of knowledge on it).
Ive had to usually "talk these drs into taking me on" as a patient as they were reluctant due to having a good understanding that I had a complex illness they didnt know much about but its all worked out great with them. Neither of the drs I worked with to train them in ME/CFS and my illness were old ones (one was a young dr who seemed probably to be just out of medical college unfortunately I since moved so right now are back at the seeking a dr thing again).
**handy hint.. if you find a doctor who has as her special interests "womens health".. Ive found using the "3/4 of the people who get this are female" card on her has helped convince a reluncant dr who I had realised would be probably a good dr to take me on as a patient.
dont though expect drs you are trying to train in this illness to be too much into "experimental" things though and expect to have to provide them with good info so they are guided. They can be great though in helping with various symptoms and taking those seriously and helping you when you need letters or a backup support when dealing with others. Dont underestimate just how much having symptoms treated can sometimes help make this whole illness more bearable even if the dr isnt "fixing" the whole illness (which is something even the best ME/CFS specialists find hard to do).