Very sorry to hear about your mother. At one point I was in a worst state then what you have described here with your mother but I want you to know I actually ended up having a remission quite a few years after that for a while. So there certainly still is hope for her.
She is currently in hospital after a very serious suicide attempt a week and a half ago
That is very concerning as with my experience of this, it makes my ME worst, hospitals are very bad places for me to be due to the lights, noises, nurses perfumes etc. It is likely to make both her ME and her mental health worst.
I've tried to commit suicide due to my ME and ended up in hospital due to this in a psych ward but ended up having to get myself discharged though I was in a bad way and needed help due to it making my ME worst. If I had stayed, I would of ended up in a complete bedbound state long term again.
She had Seretonin Syndrome around 5.5 years ago
One ME/CFS study showed that people with ME/CFS had high serotonin not low. So anti-depressants can be dangerous for some of us.
Can anyone tell me where the best CFS treatment facilities in the world and the UK are?
Unfortunately in UK there isn't good ones and whatever one she goes too could make her worst. There is two people I've followed on these forums (with another posting for them) in which have been detained in England in hospitals due to having severe ME. These people have been detained without being given ANY ME treatment and while there their ME and the issues around it were ignored.
This has caused great damage to them, one since has been put into a home for those who have mental issues , while the other has been actually left brain damaged at this point and can no longer speak and now cant even recognise family members due to from the abuse of care. (If I could think where the link is here I'd post it). These people spent 1-2 years in mental health place and it didn't help them at all.
The best way to care for your mum with how she is (she certainly couldn't cope with travelling long distance if she's' that bad) is probably for a family member who understands this illness to be taking care of her as her carer. Has one of you been doing that? She probably should be having very little stimuli if she has bad ME as its damaging eg very little talking to her etc. Those trying to help can be doing much harm if they don't understand what its like.
I believe the only reason why I recovered from that severe state is cause I could control my environment.. eg my children used to leave water and food by my bed and I'd have complete peace and quiet in the dark room, they'd do everything.. and I just stayed in bed all the time (well I couldn't walk so I couldn't do anything else). I used basic sign language as I couldnt often talk. Sometimes I slept as if comatose for 3 days and nights at a time without waking (I came close to dying). I ate only once a day with my fingers due to the effort involved in feeding myself.
Has she got a wheelchair? (If she hasn't Im surprised she don't.. many of us including myself do have wheelchair, they can not only prevent a collapse but also keep ones activity level down to help avoid worsening).
I agree that your mum probably should have health tests seeing its been 20 years without any but not sure if the hospital environment is the best place for her even for that. (Ive at times had the blood nurse come to my home to get my blood for testing. I wont get some tests done as its too dangerous for my ME level).
As willow suggested,
I too suggest to contact the 25% ME group (or Skype consult with one of the worlds ME experts), your mum if it is severe ME causing her issues,
she really should be dealing with those who are used to severe ME patients. Getting advice from others may be harmful and could end up getting her locked away for a very long time with no help for her ME. (I wish I knew where the other link was so you could read it and see just why you need to be being very careful when seeking help for her).
Please let us know how things for your mother go. Best luck. I really wish people managed to get the help BEFORE they get to this point as at this point things are very restricted what can be done. I hope your post serves as a warning to others who delay trying to seek more help sooner. It can get so nasty and once one is bedbound or completely incapable, one can no longer even seek the help let along get places to get it.
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With her only being able to talk a few words only twice a day.. I suggest to instead of speaking to use basic sign language with signals you'd both understand, its far easier. The effort to get the right word when ones brain is like this is HUGE and probably more of an effort then she should be making. When I was bad I found there was very little things I needed to sign for, food, drink, empty potty(I used to just point to it, pointing was my main way of communication)...
ps all.. Is the UK ME/CFS specialist Dr Sarah Myhill still helping ME patients?