As ME patients, our experiences with docs are SO different. For us, it's generally expected that the doc will not understand our problems, and even with a lot of time and money spent, will not be able to figure them out. We expect they will dismiss our concerns as unimportant, crazy, illogical, or even made up, possibly for drug seeking. We don't expect to be treated with respect or compassion. It's very sad that it has come to this, but that's just how it is for us.
I totally agree with you, it is very sad. I feel like most docs see most patients as horses but ME patients are zebras. When my Internist used a drug for gout, only to be used 7 days on me for over one year, I ended up in isolation for 8 days - had a bone marrow biopsy, and put on a drug that is just awful. Cancer patients hate this drug - it makes the bone marrow grow white cells. It was a horror! He never ever apologized, never to this day even acknowledged it - yet my doctor cousin was
yelling at me on phone "who in the heck gave you that drug, it causes leukemia"
I was shocked he knew this - he said "we learn it in 2nd year med school"
Sure enough, my oncologist told me I probably would be diagnosed with leukemia due to this drug.
The FDA had black boxed this very thing - the drug was NOT to be taken after 7 days - if so, leukemia would probably result.
Since then my 3 cousin doctors have told me the "truth" about what care or non-care I am getting, and what is so wrong about what my GI told me after doing an endoscopy. I had a serious operation when I was younger.
After the endoscopy, this GI told me I never had the surgery because the "cut" was not there. My cousins laughed at this, told me she was wrong, and that the cut used in the surgery lasts for your lifetime.
Sure enough, my next endoscopy with a new GI - was different. He declared how well the surgeon had cut me so very long ago. They told me that if 12 GI's were looking in your tummy thru a scope, there would be 12 different opinions.