Hi Navid,
How strange to see my name up on the thread titles!
I am really sorry to hear that you are having a rough time at the moment, I do hope you can improve. I know how desperate it can make you feel.
I dont really have any quick solution to this problem. I wish I had. I can only tell you what my general experience was.
I became ill when I was twenty-five, and I am a lot older now.
After struggling with my illness, job, life etc for six years, (and exercising to boot when able as I knew no better- swimming, cycling, walking,) I had a massive relapse and ended up in bed for two years, unable to talk, think or read, or get to the bathroom.
I kept away from doctors, as I realised by then that they could not help, and could even do me harm, and rested completely. I was completely housebound,(roombound actually) for another three years - thats five years in total, before I could even go out occasionally.
I was incapable of doing anything other than rest anyway. I tried to accept my incapacity and not run away from it. Running away (psychologically, of course) made it much worse and more unbearable.
I have improved gradually without medical intervention and relied on my body to naturally repair itself, which it has managed to do. I think that you need to fiercely protect the health you have when you are in a relapse and not push the boundaries until you are well into recovery. (And that can include experimenting with new treatments)
Nowadays I can live a pretty normal life, I can even dig the vegetable patch up - although I am not able to take the stress of working full time. I am only partially recovered, really, but I feel well and happy most of the time and I suppose have adapted well to living with a chronic illness.
I have had relationships since being ill, and did not find that the illness was a particular problem for me in making a successful relationship. A good relationship can compensate for life not working in other areas though you have to be honest about your illness and find someone who is prepared to live with an ill person.(yes, they do exist).
I am sorry if you were hoping for more answers. I see myself as recovered, mostly, but I am aware that my assessment of "well" has shifted due to the illness. I live in England, and good (not psychological) treatment here is largely supportive and aimed at easing troublesome symptoms while allowing the body to recover naturally. Experimental interventions are frowned upon. Since coming to this forum I can see that in America a large number of treatments are used which are not available in England. I do worry that Americans are making themselves ill from all the drugs they swallow. In England treatment is much more conservative, but the overall outcome seems much the same in both countries.
I do not use any drugs for the CFS/ME, just painkillers sometimes.
I dont know where you live, but I would encourage you to get in touch with your local CFS/ME organisation, as they will have information sheets on the basic drugs that are used to deal with troublesome symptoms. If you can control these, hopefully, you can start to improve.
All my experience with my local group was that people varied immensely and one treatment, for example, that helped one person for sleep or pain, could make another ill. There was no way to predict what would happen and so anyone trying a new drug had to bear the risk themselves. This was particularly dangerous if the person was already weak and at a low ebb as they did not possess the resilience to bounce back from a bad reaction to a drug. For this reason I cannot advise you on treatments, but I want to encourage you to believe that you can get better, even without treatment, as the body always strives to heal itself.
I got a lot of psychological benefit from meeting other sufferers in my local group. They offered a support and natural understanding that was impossible to get anywhere else and became good friends.
I do seem to have improved psychologically after looking at my diet and digestive problems, though I am not sure why. It could be that I had some food sensitivities.
I am sorry I cannot be more specific. I think it is worth following your intuition but do not spend more on any treatment than you can afford to lose financially. Dont go for the outlandish "treatments" however promoted. If there were a cure for CFS/ME we would all know about it already. I have spent very little on treatments and yet have eventually stabilised.
It is worth remembering too that this forum probably attracts those sufferers who have not recovered, while those who have recovered, completely or partially, are getting on with other things and do not come here. I kept away from CFS/ME for the last five years, and it was only the WPI's discovery and all the excitement of XMRV that has made me re-involve myself. So anyone coming here would be likely to think that their chances of recovery are lower than perhaps they actually are, because most people here are still badly affected.
My experience of a large number of people with CFS/ME was that over a number of years, most people eventually stabilised into some sort of tolerable life. Of course, some people, sadly, do remain ill.
I am so sorry that you have to go through this horrible experience.
I hope the work the WPI is doing will change all our futures for the better.