Thank you so much. Your reply was so helpful. You've all been so kind to me.My family used to do Christmas big. My dad was a department store window decorator in the '60s & '70s and knew how to make everything so special.
Now neither my mom nor I have energy to decorate, or go gather with family. We can't eat the foods to begin with; can't be around everyone's perfumes, etc.
It can be discouraging and I sometimes feel like I'm causing her to miss out but she is too fragile to go anywhere either. I still try to have one thing special though like cooking a favorite food such as steak or shrimp. (Can't do a whole menu.) Plus, if the noise isn't too much sometimes we'll watch a Christmas movie.
Traditions change and holidays can still be special if you do something to commemorate them. I think presents in bed sounds wonderful. You'll be starting a new tradition with your family pajama party.
Just do what you can. It can still feel special even if you have to make new traditions.
A pj party sounds really nice and a better way to think about it. Thank you.
It is my first year with cfs and anxiety this debilitating at Christmas so it's a huge overwhelm and fear for me as a mother. Thank you all for reassuring me.
Merry Christmas to you.