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stress reduction

I don't know if this is the right place to post this.

My health problems are connected to stress. I was first diagnosed with CFS after a stressful episode. Since then stress has had a huge impact upon my general wellbeing. My symptoms include low energy levels, poor sleep quality and severe eczema.

I know that it is possible to regain my health, as i did so before i relapsed.

My home life (i am in my late twenties and live with my parents) causes me low levels of stress alongside negative emotions, due to partly difficult relationships. Whilst my parents have supported me, they can easily cause me stress. A healthy version of me could deal with this easily, but this run down version struggles.

I need to find a way forward in an environment where i am stress free and happy, i struggle to see a way of this happening whilst i am living at home.

I can improve fairly quickly in a better environment, it just time for that improvement to be more sustainable.

Does anyone have any ideas for where i can turn to? Charities or suchlike. I am from the UK.
Maybe a monastery? There are a both Christian and Buddhist options in the UK. I'm of no faith myself but used to spend time in Quarr Abbey in the Isle of Wight where the rhythm of life is supportive.


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Maybe your GP to get low dose buspar or the like for anxiety. I've suffered from anxiety/panic disorder for about 40 years.

The first time I was young and able to get out of it myself. I did spent a considerable amount of time hiding in my closet to shut out noise, touch, people , etc. I bought the AA Blue Book (seldom drink, then and now) but reading a passage would help me to get through an attack. It did and they finally stopped.

Not so great the second time, although I did join a group called Recovery, Inc. Be careful that you're not in the incest group...the name is similar. I can't say that I would go back there, but it may have changed.

Third time, I talked to my neurologist and he gave me a non-addictive med to take only when I had an attack coming on. It helped for at least 15 years....never abused it, never used it unless needed.

Fourth time. These were 5 star attacks that I was getting. Never, ever stopped, just went over and over again in my mind. These were brought on by 3 separate attacks of shingles in the same year, and I was bedridden the entire time. Shingles can affect the nervous system, among others. The first attack (or 4th) was easy compared to the other 3. I think the first is easier.

Anyway, my neurologist was very concerned b/c I was having non-stop thoughts of suicide and the milder drug was no longer working. He moved me up into a higher class...xanax, low dose ER, twice/day. I didn't want to go on it, but it was either that or a mental hospital. It turned out to be a lifesaver....and this is probably 10-=15 years later. No increase and I'm fine. It's hard to get b/c of the fentanyl crisis so depending on the laws there, you may have to see a Pain Specialist and yes, a Psychiatrist. This may give you some sense of direction and I hope it will help.

In my case, things just kept getting worse with each round of attacks. I never should have let it reach the stage it ended up being. Horrible things, I know. Good luck. Yours, Lenora