Actually it sounds very beautiful that you have a partner that loves you so much that he stays with you and cares for you. I have heard of so many couples where one partner gets SEIDS and the other abandons them (the husband of author Lauren Hillenbrand did for example).
Just had my first shower n hair wash since mid december and then just saw this thread...I also note that I may belong to feminist trend as havent shaved my pits for ages and ive seen this week that dyed brightly coloured pit hair is trendy..we me women could be at the forefront of a movement whilst being totally unaware ..well if i could manage to dye the pit hair with some natural food colouring i will post a pic to amuse everyone
I use hydrogen peroxide as I can't take the alcohol and witch hazel burns my skin. Milk of magnesia, just dabbed on, can be used as a deodorant. Some dab on damp baking soda.
I've also tried colloidal silver water for underarm deodorant.
I use baking soda for tooth brushing.
I take sink baths often. I know several who only take sink baths in the winter, waiting until the weather is warm enough for a comfortable shower. I also have known quite a few people who always take sink baths, and never use a shower stall or a bathtub.
When I was a child, many of the older people only took sink baths. And they all used baking soda for tooth brushing, tho' some switched to commercial tooth powders later on.
Thank you all, sorry I've not been around. I've been taking time out to rest and recover.
My husband is an amazing man. Hes been my rock. I'd be lost without him.
Mini update. I'm back showering and hair washing. Which is great. 2 hair washes a week and 3 or 4 showers, although I've had one every morning this week so far as the house has been warm. I'm managing to help a little at home but still not out and about but I'm pacing myself.
Thank you all for your kind support last year when my world fell apart. I'm a work in progress but I'm trying to improve things slowly. My husband and children are so happy and we are much closer for all weve got through together. Thank you all for being there too. Christmas went ok but I had to rest a lot, so thank you all for advice regarding that fear I had too.
Showers wipe me out. I'm higher functioning than a lot of people here, I think, but I gave up showers many years ago because they made me feel worse. I do take tub baths nightly. Baths help me relax so I can sleep and soothe the aches. I usually add Epsom Salts.
As for my hair, since I gave up showers, I've been washing my hair in the bathroom sink. I used to do it daily, but now I only do it when I'm going out, or if it gets dirty looking. I noticed that with menopause, my hair stopped getting dirty (oily) as quickly and I could go many days without shampooing. Then, this past year I started taking testosterone shots (my testosterone & other hormones were very low), and I notice that my hair is getting dirty more quickly again. Oh well.