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@Gingergrrl, you've been very helpful and you didn't take long at all! Thank you!! I went to bed thinking of what you wrote and woke up for my medicine dose and while my words were coming together jotted it down for you. I want to respond more to you. I just became caught up responding to a couple of other posts here. I'll respond to yours later.
Edit: Please anyone reading skip the rest if you like. I'm tired, and too tired now to shorten it. Would have been good to do a couple of sentences but I went on with details why things don't work in my situation.
Thanks,
@lansbergen, I appreciate it. The "if you have" seems to be a thing for a lot of things one can do to make things easier.:/ It's a good idea though, and can be helpful for others too, if they have the money. I don't. Yet a very nice person (

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has offered to help with this (money to have someone wash my sheets), so I may.
I'm stuck in a complicated living situation full of the politics and building rules. And the setup of where I'm located in the building and my limitations makes it even harder. I've posted about this elsewhere, I'll spare you all the details.
There is also deteriorating asbestos (I had it tested a few years ago) on my side of the building.
I have ideas of how to make this work without bringing in someone from outside the building but it will take some doing. (I just wouldn't feel right with the extent of asbestos deterioration exposing someone from outside the building to come into my side of the building.)
My ideas are to either find someone in the building I can pay and make up an excuse like I have a hurt whatever (to not cause more problems for me here) or find someone outside that has a private washer and dryer that doesn't use scented stuff (or has animals) and get my laundry out of the building for them to wash elsewhere.
Thanks,
@Mary. Hopefully it will work for someone else reading this or I'll have a new home someday, then I won't have these issues.
For the above and more I couldn't do IHSS. I did have them for a little while before I realized the asbestos situation was what it is.
The reality was, it was hard to manage all IHSS requirements especially in my living situation, it took so much out of me. Workers are nervous to work around things cause they attended orientations that threatened felony charges for the littlest thing they did different than authorized. Then you risk that they may tell on you and the consequences from that. I've met people who just don't get it and would tell (it's hard to tell where some people stand at first until you know them better or receive a letter/email or comment from them.)
The IHSS social workers were not flexible at all, even to help me have some cooked food - very rigid rules. They wouldn't allow food to be cooked because the kitchen isn't in my own personal living space - it's shared on the other side of the building. So crazy cause if I lived with roommates in a house or apt they would authorize it even though the kitchen isn't in my private space! (I wouldn't have anyone cook in the kitchen here anyways, I'd want to work around it elsewhere, kitchen is too dirty, too many cockroaches and more.)
Gosh you'd think I lived in a very dilapidated building, the cover is nicer than what's in parts inside.
Also, I couldn't find good help either

and people needed me to pay an addition to their $10.50 an hour (which I would if I could).
Oh, I went on.:/ Sometimes when I write, I hope someone in the system would read these things and realize these changes need to be made, try to do something about it and at the very least become more flexible so they can truly help those who need help.
Such is life, as we do, I keep trying to turn it around, find a way to make it better for myself (and others), try to help things change, and make the best of it.
Thank you everyone for your input and ideas. I appreciate it. What doesn't work for me right now, may work for someone else.
