Does Anyone fear losing their spouse due to illness?

[crypt0cu1t]

I don't know if my fiance will be able to handle staying in bed or doing nothing constantly all day.. Honestly I don't know if I can go through this again. Is there anything I can do to get over this fear?

 

[xebex]

Yes I fear it and it also makes me feel guilty, I often wonder if I would be as patient as him if he was the sick one. I’m lucky to have him but wonder how much he can take and I really think maybe if he was the sick one I wouldn’t be so kind and that makes me feel terrible

 

[Rufous McKinney]

I really think maybe if he was the sick one I wouldn’t be so kind and that makes me feel terrible

Some of us just don't have as much bedside manners as others. We all differ in our abilities to be empathic or helpful. My husband is 8 years older and- you see it coming. And he is looking out for me alot.

 

[bensmith]

I totally get that. It certainly seems it would help to have a spouse. Ive been atarved for touch lately. Hope you guys are all doing ok as a unit. I cant imagine the strain it would have.

 

[Ladycreole03]

Yes😔Even though he comforts me daily.

 

[Haley]

My partner left after I'd be unwell for about 4 years. It made a tough time even tougher. I'm glad to hear that there are some couples who make it work.

 

[crypt0cu1t]

My partner left after I'd be unwell for about 4 years. It made a tough time even tougher. I'm glad to hear that there are some couples who make it work.

I'm sorry to hear that.. How long were you together?

 

[gbells]

I don't know if my fiance will be able to handle staying in bed or doing nothing constantly all day.. Honestly I don't know if I can go through this again. Is there anything I can do to get over this fear?

The other thing I would be afraid of is catching it from fluid contact. Several patients have reported it spreading through families. Chronic viruses are common with ME patients and probably cause it. Horrible situation. This is why I stopped dating when I contracted ME.

 

[Haley]

I'm sorry to hear that.. How long were you together?

We were together for just under 6 years.

 

[crypt0cu1t]

We were together for just under 6 years.

That's rough.. this illness has ruined a couple relationships for me, so I definitely understand what it's like.

I'm always here to talk if you need! I find it helps to have friends who are in a similar situation (I've made quite a few good friends here on PR)

 

[Haley]

I'm always here to talk if you need! I find it helps to have friends who are in a similar situation

Thanks @crypt0cu1t -It's good to have people around who can relate 😊