Yet another insightful piece. I could really relate to this issue.
My poor mom developed incontinence and the facility where she was housed, would not allow her to remain independent and live with her husband. Instead, she was isolated and put into diapers. Imagine how this feels as an adult woman? The emotional toll.
With ME, I've developed pretty intense interstitial cystitis and related type issues, so for me its frequent bladder, and at times, the most inconvenient times, its extremely painful and exacerbated by stress.
So your already stressed at a medical procedure, or out someplace, because your coping with chronic illness only now its on top of that, intense bladder siezures.
Embarrassing too, because often bathrooms aren't convenient, or its not convenient during the dental procedure to be unable to sit for 15 minutes. So your discussing your bladder, its needs, having to find places to stop, stuck in a car with coworkers who never seem to need bathrooms...it caused me considerable stress, working and trying to function out in the world of no bathroom for customers.