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You think you did. I'm not so sure.
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You think you did. I'm not so sure.
@jeff_w didn't say she couldn't feel entitled. He said her feelings of entitlement are not legitimate. I can feel that the world owes me a living, that doesn't mean that feeling is legitimate. The world doesn't owe me a living. I can feel that everyone on PR is being mean to me all the time. That doesn't make it true. Yes, I can feel whatever I want and no one can tell what to feel or not feel, but just because I feel it doesn't make it true. And other people are entitled to tell me it's not true. We are not obliged to lie about reality just because someone else feels something that is untrue.So now you're telling people what they can and cannot feel?
Regardless of my personal feelings, this thread is rather ugly. I think the best thing we can do right now is take a step back from this...
Sometimes people need to be pissed off. It is not the obligation of other people to refrain from telling the truth because it's going to piss someone off. That way tyranny lies.You said 'legitimate'.
One of the few things I have learned in my life is that telling people that their feelings are illegitimate is the #1 way to piss them off.
It would be very worthwhile to investigate whether or not she has done anything legally questionable in her book. If she has, a lawsuit is surely in order.
re there legal consequences for falsely mentioning the WHO's interest to promote her book?
I dislike the "I worked so hard to get well, and now I'm entitled to get paid for it" ideology.
I've given this more thought over the past few hours and I realized that there is a significant communication breakdown here. We are losing the distinction between a feeling -- fear, love, dismay, happiness -- and a belief.So now you're telling people what they can and cannot feel?
Maybe you speak in jest, but based on the responses, I don't think defensive is quite the right analysis of most people's reaction. A proactive voicing of well-founded scepticism towards a mishmash of implausible claims about ME's curability seems like a fairer analysis. If anyone was being defensive it was the author of the book, who has been conspicuously guarded about the book's contents.Why is everyone always sooo defensive?
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You're right; defensiveness doesn't work too well; you just get trampled on all the more. Upping the anti is what's required.Trust me,being defensive is never good for you or the party
you are trying to convince..........
And you all know it!
Just look at the list of Doctors/specialists you have exhausted through the years..
I cannot understand this approach at all. Either you want to publish the details of your story, or you don't. You can't have it both ways. Yes, you have a copyright on your work, but fair use doctrine would allow people to summarize or even publish excerpts of your book for all to see.People who have M.E. themselves will likely be aware of how badly the disease and sufferers have been portrayed in the past and so it is for this reason I am taking great care over the release of my personal medical results and the information I found. I absolutely do not want my personal medical results or any of the personal details to be published, misconstrued or shared about out of context which could alter their true meaning or full understanding.
My medical history is very personal to me yet I have decided to release it – in the way that I wish to. This is very important to me, anyone who has personally had a serious physical illness for many years and as a result lost control over their lives might understand this.
Again, I'm sorry if you felt personally attacked but you really must understand what it feels like from the other side. There can be no opposition to your book due to the nature of your results if you haven't publicly stated a single thing about your results. We have no idea what your book is about. We have no idea if it's relevant to us or not. It rubs people the wrong way to have to purchase your book just to find out if it's relevant or not.So reading through the comments here has been truly awful in comparison. I did expect there to be a certain amount of opposition to the book due to the nature of my results and I’m truly finding it difficult to believe that people with M.E. would post such comments. I would never have written all of this about someone who recovered and wrote a book for sale, I have been always been really happy for others who recovered and published their story, I either purchased their book or thought it wasn’t for me.
I am very sensitive to being called a liar or that what I do is unworthy. No one should have to endure this.
Hello to everyone.
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As I mentioned on my blog I had come across the details leading to my recovery many times over the years and progression of my illness and simply dismissed it. It was serious, physical and I thought surely it can’t be that serious… in the end the test results indicated it was unfortunately.
I have done my best to make it available to absolutely anyone who wants to purchase it. I could never afford a kindle or similar device and thought a book would be better received, especially in the UK as originally intended. I always found books easier to read.
A terminal disease is one that a sufferer will soon die of and not recover from regardless of treatment; this is not true of M.E. I was diagnosed with it by a consultant neurologist and I am now fine. I should add he never said M.E. was a terminal illness. Again I know others who’ve recovered.
I have had so much support, encouragement and congratulations on both recovering and completing the book from wonderful and kind people - along with lovely and moving comments from people who have read the book so far. So reading through the comments here has been truly awful in comparison. I did expect there to be a certain amount of opposition to the book due to the nature of my results and I’m truly finding it difficult to believe that people with M.E. would post such comments. I would never have written all of this about someone who recovered and wrote a book for sale, I have been always been really happy for others who recovered and published their story, I either purchased their book or thought it wasn’t for me.
I am aware that those with a negative agenda may resort to bullying, perhaps slander, dismiss or generally shout down those who wish to get a message across in a positive way.
A terminal disease is one that a sufferer will soon die of and not recover from regardless of treatment;
I appreciate how strongly you feel about this and I want to applaud your for providing the detail in your book nevertheless.People who have M.E. themselves will likely be aware of how badly the disease and sufferers have been portrayed in the past and so it is for this reason I am taking great care over the release of my personal medical results and the information I found. I absolutely do not want my personal medical results or any of the personal details to be published, misconstrued or shared about out of context which could alter their true meaning or full understanding.
My medical history is very personal to me yet I have decided to release it – in the way that I wish to. This is very important to me, anyone who has personally had a serious physical illness for many years and as a result lost control over their lives might understand this.
Hello to everyone.
I put a huge amount of hard work into it as I felt it positive and important. I made the information I found available for those who do wish to purchase it. [...] I absolutely do not want my personal medical results or any of the personal details to be published, misconstrued or shared about out of context [...] My medical history is very personal to me yet I have decided to release it – in the way that I wish to. This is very important to me, anyone who has personally had a serious physical illness for many years and as a result lost control over their lives might understand this.