Review: 'Through the Shadowlands’ describes Julie Rehmeyer's ME/CFS Odyssey
I should note at the outset that this review is based on an audio version of the galleys and the epilogue from the finished work. Julie Rehmeyer sent me the final version as a PDF, but for some reason my text to voice software (Kurzweil) had issues with it. I understand that it is...
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how to explain ME/CFS to people

Discussion in 'Lifestyle Management' started by leelaplay, Dec 17, 2009.

  1. leelaplay

    leelaplay member

    Explaining ME/CFS to others is one of the things that I find difficult sometimes, especially when I'm tired. I'm trying to memorize a compact message so that I don't have to think. I've searched and haven't found a thread on this - hope I haven't missed it. I vaguely remember talking about this a bit when I joined the forum two months ago and it was helpful.

    I'd be interested in what others say.

    The quote I'm trying to memorize is from Dorothy Wall, author of Encounters with the Invisible (a book on her ME/CFS experience and more):

  2. I just tell people I have an autoimmune illness similar to MS, or that I have immune system stuff going on. I just keep it short, simple and kind of vague. Any more and their eyes glaze over with confusion or disinterest.
  3. rwinsmom528


    Kinda feels to me like heart failure, MS, adrenal insufficiency and acquired immuno deficiency all wrapped up in one.
  4. hurtingallthetimet

    hurtingallthetimet Senior Member

    i really dont try to explain...ive treid with extended family they act like its nothign and i should be active like i use too and i just my experience its been negative lost friends...ahd to quit job.. etc..etc...i hate it...

    no one seems to take these illness very seriously and they are so debliltating...i stay on couch or bed pain and fatigue...
  5. Carrigon

    Carrigon Senior Member

    PA, USA
    I've tried many times over the years to explain this illness to people only to never get past the name of it. Soon as they hear the name, they zone out on you. And then you get the idiot comments of "I get tired, too." or "My cousin's grandmother's great niece's sister in law has it, too, but she works full time." And the billion other idiot comments. So now when ever possible, I will not say the name. I say Advanced Lyme. That carries more weight, and in my case it's true anyway. I was bit by ticks as a child. They believe Advanced Lyme. They might tell you they didn't know it could be that serious, but they believe you. They still walk away puzzled at how it can make you that sick, but they don't treat you like you're a nut.
  6. donnie1234


    I just say i am recovering from glandular fever. Most people know how long and hard that can be in some instances and therefore can normally relate. If they ask for how long, depending on the person, i may or may not tell the truth. Ive been lying and manipulating moronic doctors to get specific treatment for so long its quite easy; combine that with the fact that i couldn't give a damm what people think anymore. When i first got sick i was just 16 and no one believed me--doctors, family, friends--it was so desperately lonely. I cried and i begged and no one helped me. Now that im 31, im still very sick but also very strong and independent emotionally. So basically, i tell them whatever the hell i want
  7. Wonko

    Wonko Senior Member

    The other side.
    tell people? what people!!
  8. floydguy

    floydguy Senior Member

    Keeping it short and simple is the best way to go. I tend to say something along the lines of an auto-immune disorder similar to MS.

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