It is demoralizing to try to explain to someone that getting up and doing more is not helpful. It is incredibly detrimental and counterproductive for me. I was in very good shape before becoming ill. I have tried on many occasions to try to do more to appease everyone. Every single time it has corkscrewed me into the ground further. It's like telling someone to hit your thumb with a hammer. You do and it hurts. They tell you to do it again to make it feel better. You do, it hurts worse. You continue to do this, even though you know the outcome. I wouldn't be laying in bed if I didn't feel like my body was shutting down. You don't all of a sudden become lazy and unmotivated one day. People forget who you were before being sick quickly. What I feel doesn't seem logical to most, so therefore, must not be.