purrsian
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Oh that carers group does sound worrying, because the carers who might be a little unconvinced about the amount of effort their sick person is putting in will have an "expert" confirming their beliefs. And that jar of goals...maybe if the goals were focused on positive thinking and tiny improvements, like "I will remain positive during a crash" or "I will make my own lunch". But "just" travelling your own country?! Wow. Just wow.
I think that one of the most important aspects of coping with ME/CFS is that you need to completely change your idea of goals. They can't be big things anymore, they have to be small daily goals that are achievable, and you have to keep flexibility in mind so you don't overdo it by insisting on completing a goal. Our health is so hard to predict and you're so right - at the end of the year, it would be crushing to discover how many goals you didn't complete if you were putting things like "travel the country".
It just shows how out of touch she is with sick person life. She'll end up putting herself in legal trouble if she's not careful, as she's giving too much psychological and health advice with absolutely no technical expertise.
At least you're out of the grasp of her crazy now My uncle said he stopped going to local CFS support after a while because they were all so focused on just complaining about their situation over and over and that got tiring itself. So in a way, I think PR is better than local meet ups anyway lol
I think that one of the most important aspects of coping with ME/CFS is that you need to completely change your idea of goals. They can't be big things anymore, they have to be small daily goals that are achievable, and you have to keep flexibility in mind so you don't overdo it by insisting on completing a goal. Our health is so hard to predict and you're so right - at the end of the year, it would be crushing to discover how many goals you didn't complete if you were putting things like "travel the country".
It just shows how out of touch she is with sick person life. She'll end up putting herself in legal trouble if she's not careful, as she's giving too much psychological and health advice with absolutely no technical expertise.
At least you're out of the grasp of her crazy now My uncle said he stopped going to local CFS support after a while because they were all so focused on just complaining about their situation over and over and that got tiring itself. So in a way, I think PR is better than local meet ups anyway lol