Nothing’s certain in life, save death and taxes —Benjamin Franklin
One of the great givens of life is that we’re all going to die. Well, according to B. Franklin, that and taxes. Fortunately, or maybe not, we’re also, almost all of us, blessed with a sense of immortality, which pushes that eventuality deep into the distant, misty, unforeseeable future.
I can’t think of anything more painful and emotionally battering, draining, and peace-destroying (and I include all the aspects of this crappy little gut-twisting, endlessly tightening thumb-screw of an illness) than losing someone you’re deeply bonded to and love, particularly a parent, a spouse, or a sibling.
Or worse, a child.
And not to overlook the agony of having to put a beloved pet to sleep, which is horrible and painful, and made all the more painful and difficult by their inability to communicate in words what they’re feeling, or what they want.
I knew that I wouldn’t be able to take mama’s death rationally and calmly, no matter how strong our bond or my spiritual focus was. I knew how much I’d miss her, how huge the gapping hole in my life would be without her, and how intrinsic to my life and world-view she was. I knew that I would go to pieces. I knew that for a time, I’d fall apart completely, and be totally good for absolutely nothing.
I underestimated that by google-plex.
I’d love to hear about your own feelings, experiences, observations, or reactions, both to the life-changing effects of The Event itself, and to the input from the Reddit thread.
Here it be.....
When your loved one is close to the end, be aware that in most cases it isn’t the peaceful way it’s depicted in movies. Be prepared to go to therapy if you plan to be there at the end.
https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/y1smhu/lpt_when_your_loved_one_is_close_to_the_end_be/
Lemme know what you think, yes?
PS .... Because of a raft of commiserating posts to a poster who lost a child to a particularly rare and brutal cancer (more than heartbreaking, but perhaps not one of our immediate problems, at least not if we're lucky), you might want to fast-scroll down to entries starting 14 hours ago, as of 230 PM, 10-12-22)
EDIT ... For yet another typo after checking multiple times, and it was in the FIRST sentence ..... some days, I do despair ....