I learned a few valuable lessons from the disabled dating site I belong to. And I wanted to post to warn others of what's going on with them.
The disabled dating sites are infested with scammers who prey on the disabled and with woman haters who only want cybersex, often with every perversion imaginable and many you never even knew about. And what you find is, the very same ones that abuse, they have the same accounts on other disabled dating sites, as well, or with the same pic but another name.
The woman haters will lie, tell you they want a real relationship, and say anything to get cybersex out of you. And whether or not you comply, they just get more abusive. They put you down, they play mind games. Eventually, they dump you and claim it's all your fault for whatever reason they pick. I even had a few bash my religion, which makes me mad to no end. I don't talk about my religion unless asked, but it is clearly listed in my profile. And usually what they do is lead you on for a few weeks and then they'll tell you they would never date a Wiccan and dump you. But the truth is, it wouldn't matter what religion. They never wanted a real relationship, they just lied to see what they could get out of you. They'll use any handy excuse to dump you, your weight, anything. And they usually end it with, if I ever hear from you again, I'll call the police. When in fact, you should be the one reporting them.
When you do report anything to the admin of a disabled dating site, if it happened offsite, they won't do a thing about it. Their policy is, once you go offsite, people are free to abuse you in any way they choose. Therefore, going offsite with someone you met off there is a very bad idea. And they will push for it. They often lie and say they are having trouble with the site's chat feature or message feature, and try to get you off there fast. And they try to get contact info fast. Do not give your primary email address, do not give your website, don't give anything because they will use it to get your home address info if they can. I met alot of women who told me these creeps looked up their phone numbers and stuff without their permission.
Make sure to put the wrong state and city in your profile, or you will find a hundred weirdos all claiming to have a map and that they are in the area and can't wait to see you. Creepy, stalker activity, scary. Nearly every guy I met on there just happens to be going my way or claims to have just moved near by. Yeah, right. At first, I only had the wrong town listed, but when they got creepier, I changed both the city and state.
The scammers are usually foreign, but claim to be from the US or whatever country you live in. Then they'll send you a yahoo email address from another country. They are usually easy to spot. They send you the email address in their very first message to you. How low is it to prey on the disabled? It's beyond disgusting.
Beware of the "one foot in the grave" people. The ones who tell you they just got out of a hospital for kidney, liver, cancer whatever. Why do they want to meet you? Probably for a free caretaker, or some other money scam. Or they don't want to die alone and want to put you through that horror.
Be wary of the "newly disabled" ones, too. They are in no shape to be meeting someone. They haven't even dealt with their own disability yet and are often in denial stages of it. Some are actually disabled haters and start on you about how you should be out doing things and not on disability.
Then there are the "fixers". Fixers think they can fix you. Or that they can push you to do things you can't do. It's not just you, they think they can fix every disabled person on the planet. Better to just stay away from them.
I did meet a few real people, but they were either too disabled for me because I'm not well enough to care for someone who is in a wheelchair or worse. Or there were other factors where I didn't feel we had enough in common for something to really work. But the percentage of real people to scammers and haters and weirdos, is very, very low. Like one percent real. And you'll get more than a hundred responses from the fakes before you ever see a real one.
If you choose to use a disabled dating site, just know what you are getting into. Treat the site like a real life club full of people. As long as you are within the walls of the club and around the crowd, you are safe. As soon as you leave the club to go to MSN or a website or whatever, you are no longer safe. And they will prey on you.
Other things I learned, they all lie on the profile. That guy is NOT a pilot. He doesn't own his own business. And most likely if he has a business listed, he really just cleans the toilets there. If they just list depression/anxiety, they really mean about five different mental conditions, most of which they need meds for and often relapse, either hearing voices, or full of rage that they can't wait to take out on you. There are alot of things they never disclose till you start to talk to them. Never believe a word on the profile. Also, half the hobbies they have listed, they have no interest in and refuse to discuss. And don't just believe their pictures, half the time, it's not even a pic of them, it's their brother or someone else. Try getting them on an MSN video chat and you'll catch them with it. They don't look like those pics.
I wasn't aware of all this till I really started to make an effort to meet someone off the site. And believe me, it's more than a jungle out there. You have to be really, really careful. You would think the disabled dating sites would be safer. But the truth is, they are a huge magnet for the scammers and the sickos. They think disabled woman are easy prey, a captive audience. The foreign scammers think disabled women are rich. You really have to know what's out there before you go into these sites.
I currently only belong to one, but I checked out half a dozen of them and each site has the same creeps. It was amazing to see some of the same ones I talked to on different sites, trolling for their next victims. I hope this post helps others who are considering trying some of these disabled dating sites. Be very careful.
The disabled dating sites are infested with scammers who prey on the disabled and with woman haters who only want cybersex, often with every perversion imaginable and many you never even knew about. And what you find is, the very same ones that abuse, they have the same accounts on other disabled dating sites, as well, or with the same pic but another name.
The woman haters will lie, tell you they want a real relationship, and say anything to get cybersex out of you. And whether or not you comply, they just get more abusive. They put you down, they play mind games. Eventually, they dump you and claim it's all your fault for whatever reason they pick. I even had a few bash my religion, which makes me mad to no end. I don't talk about my religion unless asked, but it is clearly listed in my profile. And usually what they do is lead you on for a few weeks and then they'll tell you they would never date a Wiccan and dump you. But the truth is, it wouldn't matter what religion. They never wanted a real relationship, they just lied to see what they could get out of you. They'll use any handy excuse to dump you, your weight, anything. And they usually end it with, if I ever hear from you again, I'll call the police. When in fact, you should be the one reporting them.
When you do report anything to the admin of a disabled dating site, if it happened offsite, they won't do a thing about it. Their policy is, once you go offsite, people are free to abuse you in any way they choose. Therefore, going offsite with someone you met off there is a very bad idea. And they will push for it. They often lie and say they are having trouble with the site's chat feature or message feature, and try to get you off there fast. And they try to get contact info fast. Do not give your primary email address, do not give your website, don't give anything because they will use it to get your home address info if they can. I met alot of women who told me these creeps looked up their phone numbers and stuff without their permission.
Make sure to put the wrong state and city in your profile, or you will find a hundred weirdos all claiming to have a map and that they are in the area and can't wait to see you. Creepy, stalker activity, scary. Nearly every guy I met on there just happens to be going my way or claims to have just moved near by. Yeah, right. At first, I only had the wrong town listed, but when they got creepier, I changed both the city and state.
The scammers are usually foreign, but claim to be from the US or whatever country you live in. Then they'll send you a yahoo email address from another country. They are usually easy to spot. They send you the email address in their very first message to you. How low is it to prey on the disabled? It's beyond disgusting.
Beware of the "one foot in the grave" people. The ones who tell you they just got out of a hospital for kidney, liver, cancer whatever. Why do they want to meet you? Probably for a free caretaker, or some other money scam. Or they don't want to die alone and want to put you through that horror.
Be wary of the "newly disabled" ones, too. They are in no shape to be meeting someone. They haven't even dealt with their own disability yet and are often in denial stages of it. Some are actually disabled haters and start on you about how you should be out doing things and not on disability.
Then there are the "fixers". Fixers think they can fix you. Or that they can push you to do things you can't do. It's not just you, they think they can fix every disabled person on the planet. Better to just stay away from them.
I did meet a few real people, but they were either too disabled for me because I'm not well enough to care for someone who is in a wheelchair or worse. Or there were other factors where I didn't feel we had enough in common for something to really work. But the percentage of real people to scammers and haters and weirdos, is very, very low. Like one percent real. And you'll get more than a hundred responses from the fakes before you ever see a real one.
If you choose to use a disabled dating site, just know what you are getting into. Treat the site like a real life club full of people. As long as you are within the walls of the club and around the crowd, you are safe. As soon as you leave the club to go to MSN or a website or whatever, you are no longer safe. And they will prey on you.
Other things I learned, they all lie on the profile. That guy is NOT a pilot. He doesn't own his own business. And most likely if he has a business listed, he really just cleans the toilets there. If they just list depression/anxiety, they really mean about five different mental conditions, most of which they need meds for and often relapse, either hearing voices, or full of rage that they can't wait to take out on you. There are alot of things they never disclose till you start to talk to them. Never believe a word on the profile. Also, half the hobbies they have listed, they have no interest in and refuse to discuss. And don't just believe their pictures, half the time, it's not even a pic of them, it's their brother or someone else. Try getting them on an MSN video chat and you'll catch them with it. They don't look like those pics.
I wasn't aware of all this till I really started to make an effort to meet someone off the site. And believe me, it's more than a jungle out there. You have to be really, really careful. You would think the disabled dating sites would be safer. But the truth is, they are a huge magnet for the scammers and the sickos. They think disabled woman are easy prey, a captive audience. The foreign scammers think disabled women are rich. You really have to know what's out there before you go into these sites.
I currently only belong to one, but I checked out half a dozen of them and each site has the same creeps. It was amazing to see some of the same ones I talked to on different sites, trolling for their next victims. I hope this post helps others who are considering trying some of these disabled dating sites. Be very careful.
