because they tried to help and made it involuntarely repeatedly worse.
my worsening asthma is a real problem the recent years. especially washing detergents for cloths makes me bad. breathing, coughing. higher sensitivity to other allergens.
so the nursing home switched the detergent, now i have a problem. after not changing cloths for weeks i asked my sis if she could help me out. and she was lovely and said yes despite beeing in a hurry now because she was close to go on vacation.
my sis is a really lovely person, very peaceful, nice, not seeking confrontations and got the nickname unicorn in the friends and family circles. she is basically the opposite to me, i am fast to confront if things annoy me, and nowadays i am annoyed pretty fast due to this damn sickness because everything somebody does somebody makes my symptoms worse. and symptoms are bad enough that i barely can sit things out.
therefore i asked if she could wash and send me washed clothes i just ordered from the store, completely new.
i asked her to
- wash without any soap, detergents etc. just water
- wash twice
- hang out a few days until it doesnt smell after anything anymore
- send to me
and she did wash it and send it to me. but it reeked BADLY after washing detergents.
i now have a ball of fresh smelling clothes in my bathroom which makes me sick every time i go into the bathroom. i am thinking about throwing the cloth into the garbage or sent it back. idk.
but i am really pissed and i want to tell her how this annoys me. but i cant and i shant. she meant well and actually wanted to help, if i complain it will hurt her deeply. so i just take it in and shit my crappy emotions in this blog.
i want people to respect my sickness boundaries and be careful... or leave me alone completely. sounds antisocial, and frankly it is... but what should i do?
its really sad what this sickness makes out of me. but for me it feels like every day i am fighting for survival... and i am tired. i dont want to fight for every basic human right, like breathing air, anymore!!!
EDIT:
so after asking, she meant that she did indeed use only water and it didnt smell after anything when she sent it.
now the question is were did that smell come from. she sent the cloth in a vacuum bag. she said that other cloths were in that bag before... so probably the bag got the smell from the other cloth ... and then jumped onto my clean things.
my worsening asthma is a real problem the recent years. especially washing detergents for cloths makes me bad. breathing, coughing. higher sensitivity to other allergens.
so the nursing home switched the detergent, now i have a problem. after not changing cloths for weeks i asked my sis if she could help me out. and she was lovely and said yes despite beeing in a hurry now because she was close to go on vacation.
my sis is a really lovely person, very peaceful, nice, not seeking confrontations and got the nickname unicorn in the friends and family circles. she is basically the opposite to me, i am fast to confront if things annoy me, and nowadays i am annoyed pretty fast due to this damn sickness because everything somebody does somebody makes my symptoms worse. and symptoms are bad enough that i barely can sit things out.
therefore i asked if she could wash and send me washed clothes i just ordered from the store, completely new.
i asked her to
- wash without any soap, detergents etc. just water
- wash twice
- hang out a few days until it doesnt smell after anything anymore
- send to me
and she did wash it and send it to me. but it reeked BADLY after washing detergents.
i now have a ball of fresh smelling clothes in my bathroom which makes me sick every time i go into the bathroom. i am thinking about throwing the cloth into the garbage or sent it back. idk.
but i am really pissed and i want to tell her how this annoys me. but i cant and i shant. she meant well and actually wanted to help, if i complain it will hurt her deeply. so i just take it in and shit my crappy emotions in this blog.
i want people to respect my sickness boundaries and be careful... or leave me alone completely. sounds antisocial, and frankly it is... but what should i do?
its really sad what this sickness makes out of me. but for me it feels like every day i am fighting for survival... and i am tired. i dont want to fight for every basic human right, like breathing air, anymore!!!
EDIT:
so after asking, she meant that she did indeed use only water and it didnt smell after anything when she sent it.
now the question is were did that smell come from. she sent the cloth in a vacuum bag. she said that other cloths were in that bag before... so probably the bag got the smell from the other cloth ... and then jumped onto my clean things.