Todays, well ok this weeks bugbear for me is exactly this. Why do some people insist on minimising other peoples feelings, suffering, pain and in this case illness?. Is it because they grew up with cold parents and they lack empathy for others? They feel crap about themselves? Or what is it?. These types of people view grief as self pity and tell you to snap out of it. Whats your theory? And how do you deal with this type of sociopathic attitude?.