The 'blaming' thing just seemed like a little confusion to me. I didn't think anyone was really being aggressive about it. Also, people can have different views about what behaviour is best. I think i's fine for others to give their opinion, and for you to stand up for yours. Personally, I think it's really important that we don't only hear from those gaining positive results - otherwise we'd get a really distorted view of things. These just seem like really little, normal disagreements to me. I can understand that you might be feeling really emotionally involved in it all, and that this could be a sensitive subject at the moment, but it's pretty normal for there to be some differences of opinion about things during a discussion on a forum. It's pretty normal for internet arguments to rapidly get really heated, and I've not seen that here. Sorry to hear about your troubles, and I hope things start to improve for you soon.