Your story reminds me of one I heard Ralph Nader tell about how he (as a child) refused to kiss a cardinal's ring. He stood his ground and said NO. I like stories like that. It also reminds me of when Robert Bly, at the very first poetry reading I ever attended as a college student in Boulder, called Trungpa's Buddhists out on the now infamous "Merwin incident." You can google it to get the whole story, but basically it had to do with Trungpa's monkey men assaulting the poet Merwin and his wife at one of Trungpa's Buddhist retreats, dragging them from their room, stripping their clothes off and forcing them to participate in one of their naked dance orgies. This kind of crap was going on a lot at this time, in the mid-late 70s in Boulder. And everyone that I knew in that Buddhist community excused it. I was so impressed with Robert Bly for not pretending that this kind of abusive behavior was okay, for daring to confront the Buddhists about it. It was AWESOME! The Buddhists in the audience at that reading were standing up and yelling back at him, things like "You don't understand crazy wisdom!" and "You are not a master!" as they stomped out the door. And Bly would not relent. He kept yelling back at them, until they all left. Then he proceeded with the rest of his poetry reading. I had never seen anyone take such a strong stand to publicly call out an abusive authority. It was profound for me to witness this as a 19 year old. I went to many of Robert Bly's poetry readings after this, and even had an opportunity to recite a poem with him at one of them. About 8 years ago, I spoke with Robert after one of the readings he did here in town. I asked him about that incident back in Boulder in the 70s, and told him how impressed I was at how brave he had been to confront Trungpa's Buddhists. He looked straight at me and said, "I was scared to death. There were people in that room that wanted to hurt me." He was so honest, it made it all the more significant at how much courage it had taken to be that brave.