Welcome redracheal Its quite understandable that you've gotten social anxiety with getting this illness so young, missing out on dating etc. Also it is hard meeting and communicating well with others when one has this illness. I myself have Aspergers on top of being mostly housebound.. so making friends is so hard. (Nanonug.. interesting to hear you say you probably have Asperger's.. Ive notice you probably had it due to your posts for a while, it does show). I actually used to be okay with making the odd friend before I got ME but since Ive got this illness and been housebound for so long etc, Ive lost all my confidence in that area of socialising with people. Confidence in this area is going to take me a very long time to build up again esp since Ive had many bad experiences with others due to my health stuff. I met my last few boyfriends including my current one, online and became good friends there first before physically meeting them. I suggest when trying to explain the illness to others.. to not make it sound like you only have one or two symptoms... eg add "I also have many other symptoms due to this health condition I have", so you can easily say other things too. Unfortunately with anyone who is truely interested in you, you probably will end up having to give them a bit more explaination of it all. You will get better at dealing with others and gain confidence with practice. See each person you try to socialise with as a learning experience no matter how it goes. Focus on how you learnt something from it so you can deal even better next time. Probably the best way now to get that guy off your back who believes he can just suggest something to easily fix you .. would be to send him a good list of the symptoms of this illness eg http://wwcoco.com/cfids/bernesx.html You can explain you have most of those symptoms or whatever. If you dont set him straight, he will just keep doing what he's doing and think he can help fix that one symptom and make you all better. Im fortunate as I do have a great psychologist who coaches me throu relationship issues at times and tells me how to deal with various things (due to my Aspergers I do need that help at times as I truely dont know at times what to do with things which would be obvious to others). Feel free to ask at the forum if you have a certain issue with someone you are stuck with and dont know how to approach as maybe someone here can give ideas. If you dont do chat... maybe that is an area you could practice socialisation in.. or join a political forum (seeing you are into politics) and practice chatting to people there. Work at your communication skills and gaining confidence, a little bit at a time.