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Reporting Those That Treat You Inappropriately

Discussion in 'Finances, Work, and Disability' started by Dainty, Jun 24, 2010.

  1. Dainty

    Dainty Senior Member

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    I thought I'd share with you my experience with a bad psychologist and getting the situation taken care of through reporting her.

    I've been in the process of applying for SSDI for a while now, and a few months ago had my psychology evaluation. Being incredibly naive, I had posive expectations despite some of the stories I'd heard, because I had also heard many positive stories from people as well. I even told one friend that i was looking forward to it! So when the psychologist called to discuss the logistics of the meeting and treated me very inappropriately, her behavior was a shock to my system.

    The evaluation was called off, and with the help of my caretaker I reported her, giving a list of examples of how she acted unprofessionally, negligently, and even possibly being intentionally abusive. As a result a different psychologist was put on my case, who turned out to be perfect for it. He made no assumptions, treated me with kindness, respected my limitations, made positive comments throughout, and at one point said something like "I don't even know why I'm here." :D It was actually a pleasant experience! I dare say that having this psychologist evaluate me as opposed to the first probably made a considerable difference in my case.

    So I want to encourage anyone going through the process to report disrespectful, inappropriate, and unprofessional behavior by those evaluating them. It could really make a difference, not only for you but also for anyone else that person evaluates in the future...with enough complaints they'll have to stop doing it, and hopefully a nicer person would be asked instead.

    Here's a copy of the report that I wrote:

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    Stone Senior Member

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    Good for you to take up for yourself and others who may not be able. I'm sure it did take a lot out of you to do so but you did the right thing. I'm glad you had a better experience with a decent psychologist. It makes all the difference. Way to go!
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    Great work. A lot of us have been treated badly so many times that the idea of complaining about it seems absurd.

    I'd expect a GMC reply of : "Of course you're treated with disdain, you're a CFS patient."

    It's good to stop your expectations getting that low.
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    zoe.a.m. Senior Member

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    Kudos! I reported a "licensed counselor" in WA state and the person assigned to investigate was very interested and helpful and made me realize just how fully I'd been taken advantage of, abused and mistreated. Oddly, some time went by and I heard nothing again. Months later I received a letter saying the complaint had been dropped! I called the state and asked for info and was told that, although her conduct was worthy of a serious consequence, with the laws changing this year for counselors, they couldn't "punish" her before the changes went into effect and therefore it was dropped. She said I had a good case to go to a civil case--as though I have that kind of time and money! So, bizarrely, she got away with her record unmarked because of a technicality and I still wonder how many people have gotten away with similar things?!
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    glenp "and this too shall pass"

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    Thank you for posting this.

    Please post your experiences with doctors at www.ratemds.com it is helpful to have a place to go to see comments of patients

    glen
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    muffin Senior Member

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    Agree with GlenP. If she is out on the doctors' review sites, then make it a point to nail her for her horrible behavior.
    I am so sorry you went through this. I know that when we are so sick that we feel terribly vulnerable and the littlest thing can cause a collapse. I cried at the SSA office BECAUSE they were NICE TO ME!!!! I was ready to be beaten up and attacked as usual. But those people were so kind that I just started crying. Odd, but I was so sick I could barely sit up and my poor husband was frantic over me and the whole proceeding.
    I would nail this women so badly everywhere I could. You did the right thing in reporting her. You saved many others from her and maybe other nasty, sick people like her. What gives with these people? Aren't they supposed to be kind, caring and professional???
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    They like to call it 'tough love'. Which is really just a pathetic excuse to cover their ignorance and incompetence, and their lack of basic ethics.
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    I'm glad you were able to get this bully off your tail. Who did you report her to? (No name, just a position or office or something so we know how to do it ourselves).
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    Sounds like your ex-psychologist needs to go see a psychologist to cure her false illness beliefs. ;)
  10. Dainty

    Dainty Senior Member

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    Thanks for the support, everyone!

    My mother (caretaker) reported her to my case worker at disability, and sent in the portion I had written. I don't know if the report got passed on any further than that. The case worker, who had been very accommodating up until that point, started to become a bit frustrated....apparently this psychologist had flown out to see me, so it was a big inconvenience. And when my caseworker saw what I had written, she said, "Oh, she's so eloquent, a short conversation over the phone should have been no problem for her!" :p

    Due to my severe MCS the meeting had to take place just outside my house, and knowing how difficult it is to get doctors to do house calls I could understand how hard it must be to find a psychologist to come visit. However, apparently my case worker neglected to inform her of the necessity of it being outdoors, and after we reported the first psychologist and canceled the meeting, I guess that was hte last straw. "You can't expect someone to be outside in the wind and pollen and everything!"

    Thankfully, my excellent caretaker stood her ground and politely informed her that we are not going to risk my well-being in order get disability income, because my health isn't worth that (which I fully and completely agree with). At one point in the conversation my caseworker said, "I can't ask someone to do that." And my caretaker said something like, "Okay, then we can't move forward with this application." The caseworker: "Wait! I didn't mean that...." :rolleyes:

    I do feel badly for requiring such accommodations, but I require them nevertheless. I wish it were optional; it isn't.

    I'm sharing this, again, to encourage you all to fight for it. It wasn't like I reported the psychologist and they immediately apologized and offered to send another one...I (and my caretaker) had to make it clear that sending a different psycholoist was not optional. Honestly, I'm not sure that the report was made to the right person as far as official complaints go, and if someone wants to comment on that I'd welcome it.

    I do hope I'll have the mental stamina to report her on the website mentioned here, but at the time I just wanted someone official to have a written record of complaint pertaining to that psychologist, and to never have to speak with that psychologist again.

    It's actually been months of silence on their end since my psychological evaluation with the good psychologist, so I hope everything's good with my case.

    Hahahahahaha. :D
  11. glenp

    glenp "and this too shall pass"

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    I wanted to post something possitive. Its very difficult to find a psychiatrist who can help us.

    I have had CFS symptoms progressing from childhood. I wasnt diagnosed until in my 50's when sent to a wonderful psychiatrist. He left to pursue his specialty in geriatrics, dementia, alzheimers etc in those over 65. I saw his replacement who knew nothing of CFS and then another psychiatrist who said that I didn't need a psychiatrist. I persued it and went to the man who sets the criteria for geriatric psychiatry here, saying that I am only 60 but my brain is that of a much older person with dementia. I am so happy I got a call Friday and am going to be able to see him again. He is top rated on the psychiatrists at www.ratemds.com. I check that out when getting referred. We don't need the stress of ones that will not help us. Many geriatric patients get help from psychiatrists with their chronic conditions.

    glenp

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