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ME/CFS and the Magic of the Canine Factor

Discussion in 'Phoenix Rising Articles' started by Jody, Jul 16, 2014.

  1. Misfit Toy

    Misfit Toy Senior Member

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    I miss my dog. I loved this article. I could see it all, Jody. I live in an apt and couldn't have a dog. I also couldn't afford it if anything went wrong or it became ill. If I had a BF, or husband...I would get one in a New York minute!

    Thank you!
     
  2. Jody

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    Misfit Toy,

    I know, they can be a financial drain. Fortunately, our son is so grateful that we could take Cleo that he contributes to her food costs and if she needs a vet visit or something extra he will cover it because we couldn't do it.
     
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    This article sparked my interest in a long-held love of Labrador Retrievers. I have ASD and am very lonely but I can take care of the dog for sure the best part is I just have to throw to give it exercise. Of course there are training and socializing classes and such but from what I've heard if you are lonely and want a companion you can't go wrong with a pooch.
     
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    DeGenesis,

    I would have to agree, after my experience with Cleo, that a dog can be a wonderful friend who eases the loneliness.
     
  5. ~Tatty~

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    I'm surrounded by my four dogs as I type. They all have to be touching me when they sleep, so I just use them as wrist rests when I'm on the laptop :D
     
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    My two toy aussies are everything to me<3 My boys keep me active as i can be,(I can't disappoint them by not playing fetch, their sad faces are heart breaking!). Frankly I don't think I could get through this without my dogs. They cuddle up against my legs or under my arms when I'm feeling cruddy and need a nap, they always know when I'm feeling bad, and they never fail to cheer me up when i feel down.
    When I'm feeling particularly spry I''ll volunteer at the local animal shelter and those dogs are always happy to have some one to pet and take them on walks, it really motivates me to get out on those days(even if my own dogs get /immensely/ jealous when I get home, hehe).
     
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    Jody Senior Member

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    Tatty,

    Sounds like it works just right for all parties concerned.:)
     
  8. Jody

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    xxRinxx,

    I know what you mean. There are plenty of days when I would never venture outside, but I don't want to disappoint the dog.:) And I know it's good for me since I am well enough for it and it doesn't make me crash anymore, to get outside and go for a walk. Cleo loves the park which is 10 min. away. I rarely feel like going there but I do it for her ... and always am glad I did it because it really is a beautiful little spot. So I owe that to her.:)
     
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    Jody Senior Member

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    lol Omigosh, Liverock, this dog is great! I need one of those.:)

    I shared the video on my facebook:)
     
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  11. liverock

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    Wait for Son of Jesse, he can do all of that plus the ironing as well.:);)
     
  12. Jody

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    Son of Jesse does better than me.:)
     
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    My cat is so precious to me because I don't have to take her for walks. When I am doing worse than usual, she will come and lay close to me, purring and gazing at me in concern with those large, gorgeous green eyes. I got her from the pound when she was nine months old, and it's now been 9 years since I brought her into my life. She saves me from isolation while my husband is at work, and carries on conversations with me when I talk to her.
     
  14. Jody

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    Belize44,

    Sounds like a great comfort and great company. Cats can be very loving. Mine isn't:) but I have had other affectionate tabbies over the years.
     
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  15. Goodness to M.E.

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    Thank you so much Jody for sharing such a great story of enlightenment and joy.

    After a long time being bedridden and running out of options to have my dog walked by others, the option to re-home him was unbearable as he had sat by my the side all this time and I never felt alone or isolated. Atticus was my best loyal friend and a friend like this is difficult to find and keep when having M.E.

    To keep my best friend, like you I slowly, one step at a time commenced walking him to the park 10 minutes from our home, this took many weeks but I had also made a 15 meter lead so he could run around and exercise till we eventually celebrated our arrival onto the park bench where I could lay down and rest while Atticus ran around some more.

    We forget sometimes that most tasks in life start and finish with 'one-step-at-a-time', a dose of determination and as always, hope.

    The achievements and friendships made along the way not only brighten our day our health improves also.
     
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    Goodness to M.E.,

    That sounds very much like how I gradually worked up my way to be able to walk Cleo. Seems like everything I've managed to do since I got sick has had to be accomplished by starting with teeny tiny steps and slowly increasing them.
     
  17. Goodness to M.E.

    Goodness to M.E.

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    Exactly! and it is a shame some here are not willing to try this as a self help option for independence improvement.
    M.E. is a multi-facet dis-ease and can only be tackled by one issue at a time, at least in my experience anyway.
     
  18. Jody

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    Goodness to ME

    I think it totally varies from one individual to another as to what is possible to accomplish. I know that for me there was a time when walking a dog even to the stop sign would have beyond me. Even contemplating the idea would have been overwhelming.

    There were times when the thought of trying to get out of bed was more than I could do, and wisely, I did not attempt it.

    I would not be prepared to assume who is able to do more than they are doing or who is not. We have enough people making those judgments without doing it to each other here. Each of us must determine for ourselves what it is safe and appropriate for us to attempt without being second-guessed about it.
     
  19. Goodness to M.E.

    Goodness to M.E.

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    Thanks for sharing your opinion on my thoughts Jody.

    There is no such thing as right or wrong: only thinking makes it so!

    My experience of dealing with any chronic illness with others and from my own experience is that often we focus on the things that we cannot change or control instead of what we can or maybe able to and do.

    Everything in life starts with small steps no matter what, an idea, a savings plan, recovery from illness and a
    a life worth living.........even with chronic illness.

    For example this website has been a great insight for me:

    There is no world agreement, treatment or cure for M.E. (I'm not talking about the 1980's bogus CFS).

    Whether we like it or not, there is no reasonable or affordable access to any competent medical treatment that is of any great benefit no matter where one lives in a 1st world country for M.E. suffers.

    No one here or on other similar websites claim to have been cured and in most cases, not been able to return to their former life no matter how many doctors they try, how many tests they have, or how many medications, treatments or supplements they take.

    Therefore the choice to stop this merry-go-round of medical pursuit was a significant turning point for me.

    I have stopped doing this and use the gained time, money and energy to eat and live well within my ability with gratefulness.

    How did I reach this point after years of being unwell - research into how other chronically ill people and those who endured horrific life experiences and how they redesigned their lives and developed a meaningful life where their chronic illness or experiences did not define who they are.

    This also required brutal self honesty and being insightful enough to read what happens to others when they only focus on external responsibility and expectation, blame and entitlement, this victim mode is rift as is how this plays out for them so negatively and nothing changes let alone gets any better. Just because we are sick does not entitle us to expect, demand or be bad mannered.

    From this I have 3 rules I live by every day:

    I dont look sick,
    I dont be sick,
    I dont talk sick,
    unless asked and then only for a minute before changing the subject unless at a regular medical appointment every 6 months.

    This is my mind set and it works for me along with being mindful of my feelings, I always ask myself, is this feeling a child feeling or an adult feeling therefore how do I best respond?

    I would not presume anything that works for me would work for others here, but then I didn't do all my research here either.

    All people are entitled to choose how they live their life, my only suggestion is that if that's not working for you, maybe it's time to try something different.

    I'm the 'something different' and it's a great place to be!

    And if that makes me a 'Tall Poppy' I can live well with that too!
     
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