I've been getting better lately, and I do actually feel like going out sometimes with my husband. The problem is, when I'm worn out and want to be taken home, he just won't get the message. e.g. Last weekend he sugested going to a little town in the mountains about an hour away. On the way there, he casually mentioned he'd arranged for us to have lunch with one of his colleagues who happened to be there at her parents' house. So a couple of hours walking round a town and having coffee turned into a morning and lunch out. The lunch went on and on and despite me begging him to take me home lots of times, it came to 6pm and we were still there. At 6pm his mother (who was looking after our son) rang and said she was tired, and I swear he was up and heading to the car before he'd even finished the phonecall. WTF? I spent 2 years always telling him I didn't want to go out (anywhere, ever) because I knew this would happen and just make me get progressively more ill. Now I an fed up of always staying in, I do want to go out but.... How can I make him get the message? I've tried the logical method of explaining that, when I say tired, I really mean ill. I've also told him - he has seen it happen enough times - that if I get over-tired it takes at least 2 weeks for me to recover. Nothing normal is going to work. I need some kind of stratagem worthy of the Desperate Housewives which will manipulate him into doing what I want without delay!